Crushes, Boyfriends, and Girlfriends | V4

[GIGABITE]

It's very difficult for me to find a relationship, apparently
Really I need it in my life; some kind of stability. Someone who will actually care for me, since all of my friends have other friends and I'm of the lowest priority
But for whatever reason, every crush I get is a flop. This only further stresses me and simply adds to my weird emotional state. This whole relationship thing is just not happening for me for a while, I suppose
I still admire people, however, even though at this point I just don't try anymore

[pizzas and scream]

So I've had many crushes before, but this one is different. We used to go to school together, but I moved four years ago. We barely spoke in school and when we did it was usually very unpleasant. He was rude and continually bullied me and my friends. He friended me on Facebook a few months ago and we started talking. He apologized for all the mean things he had done and so did I. I gave him my number and we became friends quickly, but then I started to actually have feelings for him. A few days after I realized my feelings he told me about his. I told him mine as well, but we aren't dating. We are starting to hang out again to get to know each other more. I hung out with him for the first time on Halloween. We just walked around by his house and talked about our lives. It was simple but really nice. When he dropped me off at home he asked to hug me. It took me by surprise because no one had ever asked for a hug before. They usually just go for it. I found it really sweet and gentlemen like. I agreed and we hugged. It was a quick hug but it left me weak in the knees. No one has ever been able to effect me in such a way before. We talk almost every night, mostly on snapchat or texting. Tonight we were having a normal conversation and I asked him what he was doing. He replied with "watching tv and thinking about you." It made me smile, blush, and get butterflies in my stomach, something that's never happened to me before. I always thought I would hate the feeling of being in love. I've seen couples fighting constantly, ruining others lives with it and I never wanted to go through that. Now that I think I'm in love I like it. I love the feeling of my stomach twisting in knots at the thought of him. I love the weak feeling I get in my knees when I see him. it's such a strange yet wonderful feeling and I hope everyone gets to experience it once in their lives.

Awwww, that is such a sweet story!!! You sound so happy ^^
You know, when a guy bullies a girl, they usually like them? Yeah, guys are so strange sometimes!
But seriously though, that is so cute!!! I hope you guys remain happy together! (Hope I can find something like that too one day hehe .)

when the people belive that, it makes me think I should "torture" any guy I might fancy. even if "boys be mean to you because they are raised wrong to be agressive and macho, so they don't know how to be sweet to the girls they like"
so you know. I'd be mock agressive and downright terrorfying to go "hey baby *purrrrrr* I like you you snivling little feckless wonder, nice body you got there. part of me wants to hug it or smack it with a stick, you look cute but a little stupid. intellegence is attrative but I guess I can deal with that. what websites are you on? I'll playfully troll you to show you my feelings of want-to-be-in-love"


and as for the thing about subcounsious brains and dreams.
I hardly drempt of anyone. maybe a few times, and it was a casual dream, like I was trying to deliver a message.
but I don't even have dreams with characters I like. like "I had a wonderful dream Sam Winchester was my boyfriend," I did have a 10th Doctor dream, but it involved me throwing ball pit balls at him(ball pit and he seperated by netting) and being cranky about teloporting via "rainbow bubble land" and how hard it is.

so it sad that way and I guess saying "can't romance, don't even dream it"

[Pyrrha Nikos]

Okay, so I have finally succeeded in figuring out my crush liked me, and I told him I liked him. The unfortunate part? This all happend over text and neither me or him wanted it to go down this way. He told me that he didn't want to ask me out over text, which I eagerly agreed with. Problem is..there have been plenty opportunities to ask me out in person now and he hasn't taken them. I don't want to be pushy or anything, but I really do want to date him. Advice please? Thanks

[Pulsefire]

Somebody might recognize me and my problem, but I need help again.

I've been secretly liking a guy for quite a while but there's another girl in my class who flirts with him and everything. Long story short, it's killing me. I can't find the guts to tell him how I feel because I'm positive he sees me nothing more than a cool classmate. It'd be pretty embarrassing if I already know that my confession will only make things awkward between us. That other girl's cuter and seems more "fun" to talk to than I am. I honestly feel miserable and this issue is destroying my self-esteem.

So, um. You guys know how to get over someone quick and as painless as possible? I can't find a way to contain jealousy.

Honestly I had this problem with a girl i feel in love with. Then had some complications and we slit apart after dating. Someone once told me is to accept within yourself to move on, you must move on within yourself with your feelings if you expect to move on with the other person. Time will tell. Waiting and the patience is hard but eventually... eventually you will be ok. I guarantee. You can PM me if you want to talk directly.

[LightningAsuna]

Okay, so I have finally succeeded in figuring out my crush liked me, and I told him I liked him. The unfortunate part? This all happend over text and neither me or him wanted it to go down this way. He told me that he didn't want to ask me out over text, which I eagerly agreed with. Problem is..there have been plenty opportunities to ask me out in person now and he hasn't taken them. I don't want to be pushy or anything, but I really do want to date him. Advice please? Thanks

at this point if you really want to go out and dont want to be to pushy the best way is to ask him out. asking him out seems less pushy then bringing dating up in conversation.

[kotalicious]

I get to hang out with my crush tomorrow after school I'm so nervous. I've only been on two dates before and they were both awkward as sin. He told me last night that he wants to kiss me. He asked me if it would be okay if he kissed me while we were hanging out. I gave him permission to, but now I'm nervous. I've only been kissed twice, both by a boy I didn't like. I didn't kiss back so I pretty much have no kissing experience. What if he thinks I'm a horrible kisser and doesn't like me anymore? I'm like pulling my hair out thinking about it.
I also have a question to those who do have experience with kissing. Most people say they feel sparks when they kiss someone they really like. I felt nothing when that guy kissed me. So is it true that you feel sparks or something like that or is it just nothing?

[thunderofthedrum]

how do i explain to my parents the person i love is 3 yrs older then me and we both love each other ...why do they say were to young for love?

Let me see if I got this right...

claws990p » Sun Oct 19, 2014 5:50 pm
when i talk to him the whole world stops and its just me and him i feel so lucky that i have him but i am afriad to say the 3 word he want to hear

claws990p » Mon Oct 20, 2014 2:46 pm - reposted above
claws990p » Mon Oct 20, 2014 3:23 pm - reposted above

claws990p » Mon Oct 20, 2014 3:34 pm
ive never had a True kiss

claws990p » Mon Oct 20, 2014 3:57 pm
your a prince im a maid your a rose im a thorn .... why do love me so much ..... i did the worst things i make dumb decisions and say things without thinking
why cant i just tell you i love you with everthing of this heart i have left

claws990p » Tue Oct 21, 2014 3:23 pm
This is for every girl
When u think your in love becuase hes cute or if shes cute .... just wait for real love it happens when nobodys expects it

claws990p » Tue Oct 21, 2014 7:03 pm

yukicross0292 wrote:uhh...How do you make a guy think you're...
A) SMART
B) Cool
C) Cute
D) LIKABLE????

help me please??

you cant force anything you have to become friends first

claws990p » Fri Oct 24, 2014 4:20 pm
update
i found that one person who completes me

claws990p » Tue Oct 28, 2014 3:16 pm
so i have always been a loner ..like 4 to 9 friends then one day that person i needed came now he says he loves me and i love him but im worried he could be with other girls due to he out of state

claws990p » Sun Nov 02, 2014 8:28 pm
i have trust issues ...like bad ....im broken beyond repair and now my walls are falling down because of him ........ i want to give him my heat but what if he breaks it

claws990p » Mon Nov 03, 2014 4:02 pm
i have trust issues ...like bad ....im broken beyond repair and now my walls are falling down because of him ........ i want to give him my heat but what if he breaks it
im opening up to him but im so afraid hes gonna break my heart .....i love him though

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These are just over the past two and a half weeks. That's all!
From what I've seen of your posting, relationship experience, and roleplaying, I'm guessing you're pretty young.
At the beginning you sound like you are jumping into 'those three words' WAYYY too fast, or at least sooner than you were comfortable with. You haven't kissed anyone yet, you know that building a foundation of friendship can be a good thing (or at least getting to know each other), but then on October 24 suddenly you seem convinced you've found your soulmate. That's rather dramatic, to be honest.

I don't feel 4-9 friends means you are a loner. I have two best friends, three friends long distance that I don't get to see very often, and a boyfriend. That's still just five actual friends. That's totally normal. BUT, it sounds like this new guy is on the internet so how well you do really know him??? You are so quick to jump to 'love' and that feels very immature and overly eager to me. YES he could be seeing other girls, especially if you don't know him well. Stop assuming you 'love' every person you have a crush on. This guy you like - is he respectful? Does he have manners? Does he care about your feelings? And don't forget, sometimes a person will be nice to the person they LIKE and be totally awful jerks to other people. I wouldn't want to date someone who is disrespectful to their parents, rude to hard working waitresses, racist, homophobic, etc. Does he have goals or does he just sit on his butt at his computer smoking pot or something? Have you even SEEN this guy?!

I know I'm being blunt, but many of your posts strike me as very melodramatic so I feel being blunt is necessary. You haven't given any information about this guy, only that you like him and that it's likely online and that you are scared of getting hurt. Take a step back and TRY to be objective. What do you know about him? How long have you been talking to him? Don't EVER do something you are uncomfortable with. You have to respect YOURSELF if you expect anyone else to respect you. If you let yourself be walked on, then people are going to think it's okay to do so.

[Beta]

I get to hang out with my crush tomorrow after school I'm so nervous. I've only been on two dates before and they were both awkward as sin. He told me last night that he wants to kiss me. He asked me if it would be okay if he kissed me while we were hanging out. I gave him permission to, but now I'm nervous. I've only been kissed twice, both by a boy I didn't like. I didn't kiss back so I pretty much have no kissing experience. What if he thinks I'm a horrible kisser and doesn't like me anymore? I'm like pulling my hair out thinking about it.
I also have a question to those who do have experience with kissing. Most people say they feel sparks when they kiss someone they really like. I felt nothing when that guy kissed me. So is it true that you feel sparks or something like that or is it just nothing?

You do feel sparks. When you kiss someone you feel passionately towards, you kiss a little longer, stretch a little higher, get a little closer. It's a rumbling and exciting feeling that comes from within. When you kiss someone that you don't feel comfortable with, or that you aren't truly physically attracted to, there's anxiety present and it takes away the good feelings of sharing a kiss with someone. It's an overall excitement, especially when it comes to the first one. I hope you do get to feel this with this guy, but if you don't, don't give up hope immediately, just give him a chance.

[.:Ovanite:.]

Hi, i need some advice, i have a crush and i think he likes my friend more than me, and i get really jealous sometimes when they leave me out of something... Am i over exaggerating? Because i dont know what to do please help

[thunderofthedrum]

It's very difficult for me to find a relationship, apparently
Really I need it in my life; some kind of stability. Someone who will actually care for me, since all of my friends have other friends and I'm of the lowest priority
But for whatever reason, every crush I get is a flop. This only further stresses me and simply adds to my weird emotional state. This whole relationship thing is just not happening for me for a while, I suppose
I still admire people, however, even though at this point I just don't try anymore

To be honest, it sounds to me like you want a relationship simply to have a relationship - and that's not the right reason. When we don't know someone super well, we tend to overlook all of the 'unknowns', or delude ourselves into thinking there is only further perfection to be found (instead of reality, flaws, bad habits, etc). Also, make sure that when you ARE with someone, they aren't your WHOLE world. Maintain your own life, your own goals. Don't live through the person you are dating or become clingy. Independence is attractive, as long as you aren't being distant.