Crushes, Boyfriends, and Girlfriends | V4

[autumnsoundtrack]

So there's this guy that I kinda like, and so far for the past three days he's called me cute/adorable at the randomest times. (Except for today, he poked me in the stomach and I laughed/make a weird noise and he said "You're so cute." The other times before today it was completely out of nowhere like he'd just stare at me and say "You're so cute") The problem is I feel like he's only being friendly?? Like he hangs out with quite a few girls in his grade (he's a freshman and I'm a junior btw) and idk if he ever calls them cute but he lends them his jacket and hugs them a lot (for like a long time too, he says that he loves hugs so that's probably why he hugs a lot but yeah) and I want to believe that he's flirting with me by calling me cute, trying to talk to me for even a second every time we see each other, hugging me a lot (like even in the middle of class too it's kinda weird but really adorable), staring at me in class, and messing with me a lot. My friend thinks he's just a player (which he isn't bc he's like the sweetest/weirdest guy ever. I know player types and he's not one of them) but I'm so confused with the signals he's giving me. I've known him for about 2 1/2 weeks, I have 0 experience with guys, and I'm so confused. >.<

[Zero ❍]

Please please please guys!!! HELP!! How do you get over a crush!?

And not a small one....a really really REALLY strong one. Please help....

[Dia.]

Please please please guys!!! HELP!! How do you get over a crush!?

And not a small one....a really really REALLY strong one. Please help....

You don't just get over a crush.
But you can try by focusing on why you have to, what makes you want to, and things that don't make that person desirable.

[Zero ❍]

Please please please guys!!! HELP!! How do you get over a crush!?

And not a small one....a really really REALLY strong one. Please help....

You don't just get over a crush.
But you can try by focusing on why you have to, what makes you want to, and things that don't make that person desirable.

He is ruining his own life. It's not, going with another girl. I would be fine with that. He hates hurting people and he thinks he'll hurt me, he's also had a horrible past. He doesn't want anyone because he wants to protect them.

I've been having dreams about him dying.....now I'm at a new school and there is no one here. It's a very small school, I've seen everyone here.

*Sighs* Glad I got that off of my chest. But I've tried that, and it doesn't help my situation. Any other ideas?

[Dia.]

I'm being serious when I say that there is no push-button way to get over a crush. We aren't hiding some magic secret from you.
Just keep trying, it won't happen overnight. It'll take time. Meet some new people and make some new friends at your new school and keep your mind off of it.
If you're worried for his safety, talk to an adult about it so you can stop worrying.

[hollyglow]

Okay... I need to calm down. So, right before lunch, the guy I have a crush on (his locker is right next to mine), his binder came open. Everything came spilling out. I was talking with my friend, and I was kind of looking at him because I wanted to help him, but I was afraid to because I like him, and I was afraid that I'd get rejected. I know... I'm paranoid. Anyway, so we finished our conversation, and I was just standing there in silent war with myself. Finally, I turned and said, "hey, do you want me to help with the papers?" In a high voice, because when I'm nervous or embarrassed, that's what happens, and I was getting over a cold, so more so than usual. He said yes, so I helped him, he thanked me, and I went to lunch. When I was sitting eating, he gave me a RASC, which is just a thing our school does, and now I have even more of a crush on him! It's torture.....

Weeeell, thanks for reading.

Edit: and I'm worried that he thinks I only did it for the RASC.

[Zero ❍]

I'm being serious when I say that there is no push-button way to get over a crush. We aren't hiding some magic secret from you.
Just keep trying, it won't happen overnight. It'll take time. Meet some new people and make some new friends at your new school and keep your mind off of it.
If you're worried for his safety, talk to an adult about it so you can stop worrying.

I understand, I have had other crushes before and have gotten over them. It's just been months without much difference. It is very frustrating.

[Dawnbreeze10210]

Please please please guys!!! HELP!! How do you get over a crush!?

And not a small one....a really really REALLY strong one. Please help....

You don't just get over a crush.
But you can try by focusing on why you have to, what makes you want to, and things that don't make that person desirable.

He is ruining his own life. It's not, going with another girl. I would be fine with that. He hates hurting people and he thinks he'll hurt me, he's also had a horrible past. He doesn't want anyone because he wants to protect them.

I've been having dreams about him dying.....now I'm at a new school and there is no one here. It's a very small school, I've seen everyone here.

*Sighs* Glad I got that off of my chest. But I've tried that, and it doesn't help my situation. Any other ideas?

I understand what you mean when it's hard to get over a crush. But like dia said, there isn't exactly a magic potion to instantly remove your feelings for him. The best you can do is distract yourself in the mean time, not necessarily thinking of his cons. Just try making some new friends at your school, doing hobbies you enjoy, writing, art work, music. Really the list is endless I suppose with what could keep your mind busy. Now, if you ever just need someone to rant about those dreams you're having, feel free to PM me. I'll lend an open ear and give you some advice if you want me to as well. You don't have to be alone while you're trying to get over a crush, whether you be with your family, new friends, or just come talk to me if you'd like!

[Zero ❍]

@Dawn - Thanks, I really appreciate your help. You know...I was fine until this dream I had last night. It was...I'll PM you if you want to give your opinion. Maybe you can help me a bit more?

[Halogens]

How do I tell if this guy likes me? I'm in a couple of classes with this guy, let's call him S. We've been in the same school for like three weeks, and over the last week we started hanging out in class more and more. I definitely deviled a crush on him but he is confusing me like crazy. We always sit at the same table, and he high fives me and teases me all the time. He has also said (multiple times) that he wishes we where in more classes together. He even have me a spontaneous hug the other day. But then sometimes I see him flirting with other girls too, so I am super confused. Help?
Ps sorry if this is confusing or full of spelling errors, I'm on mobile....