Crushes, Boyfriends, and Girlfriends | V4

[Princess Porcelain]

Hm.. that's tough. ;-; I don't think it was right for her to break you guys apart though. Breaking up love is just plain wrong. ;_; Do you know why she wanted you two to break up?

Well, I'm agender [which she doesn't understand, she believes there's only male and female], but my biological sex is female, and she's against homosexuality so she didn't want us together. The way I see it, since I'm not even a girl it doesn't count as homosexuality. I'm not a guy, I'm just not a girl either, no matter how much I look like one. That's that. And this is driving me nuts. T.T

[claws990p]

I have a very big problem. There's this guy, let's call him Q. And well I like Q a lot and I think I might even love him. For you to understand I have to start at the beginning
we started out messaging on facebook, then through text for about 4 days striaght. After a bit i asked him "is your girlfriend okay with you texting me" just to see if he had one and he replies with "yeah she's fine with it...our relationship is complicated....but its only complicated because she lives in a different state. (Ps. Within those four days our dogs came up in the convo and he sent me pics of all three of his dogs with him in each picture) after he said he had a girlfriend i say "Okay..." to which he says "you dont seem to happy about me saying that" and i say "i honestly didnt" then he goes on to keep asking me why and i finally told him that part of it was this thing like a code i have for not getting involved and that part of it is something else. But he keep asking me what the other thing is by saying things like "everything sould be out on the table so we can sort things out" or something like that.
So I started texting him less after that and he sometimes would text first and if he says he is going to text me back after a nap or movie he always does. And when he texts first he says "hey" or "hey you" .
after that he ended up telling me about how his swim coach had died of breast cancer and how after 15 deaths it all becomes numb.
Last time I saw him in person it went to utter silence to playfully teasing like light pushes and some playful remarks.

So here's the tricky part: some of my friends and my mom included say that he is faking having a girlfriend. There is no sign of her on facebook but he has told me that he is moving to to be with her but he has also told me that she has not returned his calls or texts.
they also are convinced that he likes me but I still not to sure cause 1: he says he has a girlfriend 2: he talks about his girlfriend 3: he is almost always the one to say good night through text when we have been texting and 4: I just don't see guys liking me, especially the ones I like in return
so

I need help with all this please and thanks

never say that no one could like you and maybe he says he has a girlfriend because hes afraid to ask you

[intristin]

Hi. I don't really do this. But I guess I should. Because I need help. [<-- the grammar.]
Okay, here goes.
Key:
B: My current crush and friend
R: My former crush, from like 2 years ago, who has liked me a LOT ever since and wants to date me. And he's my friend
N: My former crush, from 1 year ago, who I liked but was rejected from and ever since ignores me

Okay, so first let me start at the beginning. Get your popcorn, people.
Two years ago, I rashly sent R a valentines' letter because I liked him. This was my first crush, so you understand, I was loose on the secrecy and told all my friends (basically, the entire group in my swim team) that I liked him. I even told the coach I liked him.
After receiving the letter, R instantly responded by hanging out with me, sending me letters, and going into the tennis courts with me that were right behind the pool that we swim at. I enjoyed myself with him for a few months until things got uncomfortable for me and I didn't enjoy our time together as much.
That's when my interest in N started up. He was adorable in my eyes, funny, and kind of quiet. So, while R still thinking I like him, I send him a letter without R knowing. I hear nothing back from N. Ever. (A year later, one of my friends gave a guy on our team a birthday invitation. The guy was friends with N, along with some other guys, and they were saying, "Oh, don't open it! N got one awhile ago that had a loveletter in it!" I lost my temper, turned, and shouted at them "It's a birthday invitation!" And they were just like "Oh." ._.)
So my love with N started to die out. BUT, at the yearly bowling party, I went up to B, a well-known jokester that was my age, and said, "Could you help me out with N? See if he likes me, y'know?"
Well, he did more than that. At the bowling party, he managed to get N to sit next to me a number of times. (Forced. N just said nothing to me. ,_,)
So, after N's rejection, I found myself going back to R for comfort. Well, all this time, he believed we were still "Together". To this DAY, he thinks we're "together". Everytime I think he's gotten the hints that we're done, he just asks me to the movies. ._.
I'm getting off subject. So, a few months ago, I was really sick of R's doting and annoying asking on dates and me turning down sweetly. He had even, at the yearly swim team banquet, asked to kiss me. I had rashly agreed, but at the banquet, I learned he had TOLD EVERYONE HE WAS GOING TO KISS ME. So I refused and didn't kiss him...
So at a swim meet, (By now B, R, and I are all friends) I asked B if he could tell R I didn't like him. B agreed. But he never fulfilled his mission.
Now, I'm crushing on B. We hang out a lot, as we're the same speed in swimming and we're always competing against each other, trying to be the better one. Friendly competition. We're in the same lane, he's a one, I'm a two, or switched, and we lap people, so we're alone on the wall most of the time, waiting for the next set, just talking. Lately, we've been talking A. LOT. I've found myself spacing off thinking about him. Trust me, I never was like this with R. It was just, hey, let's send him a card. With B, it's different. I'm crestfallen when he isn't at swim practice. I'm overjoyed when he is. He's known as kind of an annoying kid, in a funny way though, so I haven't told any of my friends because I worry what they'll think about me, and I don't want R to know.

So, here are my questions.
Is there a safe way to see if B likes me?
Is there a safe way to tell him and see if we can possibly date?
SHOULD I even try? Or should I just let it go?
I'm just really cautious about giving my heart out to guys now. Because of the two different problems; rejection and too much acceptance, well, I'm worried. But I think the problem was, R was ready to date, and I wasn't. Or I was, but not with him. I'm ready now for sure, but I want to be with B. Ugh. Hopefully someone has read all the way through this chicky, cliche story.
Thank you so much.

[owl0430]

hi again guys.i know i havent posted in a while but i have some GREAT news.ok so new school year right?right.so a new year is a new start.ive have been trying to not be outcasted this year trying to find my 'people'(aka the people i fit in with)and i finally did.and guess who is in that group of people i fit in with?MY CRUSH!any advice on what NOT to do around him?

[Dawnbreeze10210]

hi again guys.i know i havent posted in a while but i have some GREAT news.ok so new school year right?right.so a new year is a new start.ive have been trying to not be outcasted this year trying to find my 'people'(aka the people i fit in with)and i finally did.and guess who is in that group of people i fit in with?MY CRUSH!any advice on what NOT to do around him?

I'm thrilled for you that you've found a group you feel you belong too! C: as for what to 'not' do around him, I'm going to have to be cliché here and tell you to just be yourself. Don't be someone who you're not and try not to stress out too much around him. Be yourself, talk with him, have fun, relax! Haha, but if you do have any concerns or more questions don't hesitate to PM me.

[~Static~]

Hm.. that's tough. ;-; I don't think it was right for her to break you guys apart though. Breaking up love is just plain wrong. ;_; Do you know why she wanted you two to break up?

Well, I'm agender [which she doesn't understand, she believes there's only male and female], but my biological sex is female, and she's against homosexuality so she didn't want us together. The way I see it, since I'm not even a girl it doesn't count as homosexuality. I'm not a guy, I'm just not a girl either, no matter how much I look like one. That's that. And this is driving me nuts. T.T

I'm really sorry, this is terrible! In my opinion, you should have a real talk with your mother about this. And honestly, if you feel you should stay with your girlfriend, you should at least try to keep in touch with her, even if you're not in a relationship anymore. I hope things get better for you!

[Doggo Supreme]

Okay, so homecoming is next week and I was confused why people were asking each other out. I didn't know there was a dance involved with it, I thought it was just a parade. But my crush, lets call him J. We became friends at a summer camp before 8th grade; before that, we used to hate each other. But when school started, I got a crush on him and talked to him every day. At the end of 8th grade, he emailed me since he borrowed my laptop for a couple days and got my email and I got his. He then asked me if I had a crush on him because my friend, his ex, told him I liked him. I told him I did and turns out, he actually has a crush on me too. So we talked on our iPods a lot (still do) and he tells me that he loves me and how I am hot and good looking; I tell him that too, just not in public. He is going to move to Arizona for a year with his dad, but then he will be back for junior and senior year. The thing is, the dance is on a Saturday night, but that is also when my friend has her birthday party/sleep over and I want to be there. But J does not usually like dances I don't think, but I don't know if I should ask him or not or if he will. We haven't told each other that we love each other in public, and I have to make a decision soon, but I don't know what I should do. :p

[~Static~]

Okay, so homecoming is next week and I was confused why people were asking each other out. I didn't know there was a dance involved with it, I thought it was just a parade. But my crush, lets call him J. We became friends at a summer camp before 8th grade; before that, we used to hate each other. But when school started, I got a crush on him and talked to him every day. At the end of 8th grade, he emailed me since he borrowed my laptop for a couple days and got my email and I got his. He then asked me if I had a crush on him because my friend, his ex, told him I liked him. I told him I did and turns out, he actually has a crush on me too. So we talked on our iPods a lot (still do) and he tells me that he loves me and how I am hot and good looking; I tell him that too, just not in public. He is going to move to Arizona for a year with his dad, but then he will be back for junior and senior year. The thing is, the dance is on a Saturday night, but that is also when my friend has her birthday party/sleep over and I want to be there. But J does not usually like dances I don't think, but I don't know if I should ask him or not or if he will. We haven't told each other that we love each other in public, and I have to make a decision soon, but I don't know what I should do. :p

I think you should ask him what he thinks about the dance, and then, if he really doesn't want to go, I would ay don't bother asking because he might feel forced into it. But if he seems indifferent/wants to go, you might want to consult with him on what you're going to do on Saturday. That's the only advice I can really think of, hope it helps!

[Tainted~Wings]

ok I am afraid to crush on my bfffffffffffl lets stick with the letter C for him. Cause he likes me. I am afraid because guys i dated before i met him get hurt after we break it off. I had a friend, A, he dated me and after we broke up he broke his leg during football practice. Am I just overreacting, Total Deja Vu, or am i bad luck? Please help me i like my bffffl and don't want to hurt him if that's the case

[~Static~]

ok I am afraid to crush on my bfffffffffffl lets stick with the letter C for him. Cause he likes me. I am afraid because guys i dated before i met him get hurt after we break it off. I had a friend, A, he dated me and after we broke up he broke his leg during football practice. Am I just overreacting, Total Deja Vu, or am i bad luck? Please help me i like my bffffl and don't want to hurt him if that's the case

There is honestly nothing to worry about! These are most likely a bunch of silly coincidences, I doubt it has anything to do with you. c: