ExplodingInk wrote:Zanjux wrote:██★██ The first logical step would be to wait until you are legal before "starting" anything with him. It might be legal, but that doesn't mean people will approve of it. After that, it would be a good idea to meet him in real life, but stay very safe in case it's the worst case scenario. A lot of time people are different online than they are in real life. Most of all just give it time. If the feelings don't fade, there is no reason you shouldn't go for it, so long as both of you can be mature about it. People will stare, but it's none of their business after all.
I was wondering if that would be the best option - thanks Zanjux it makes me feel better knowing that waiting the few months to be legal is a good idea. I think the reason, like you said is people will not approve but it is not their choice. I can handle the whole staring concept, I think what I am most afraid of is I have a problem with yelling - and I am sure this will cause yelling at least in my household.
I know it may be different, I am afraid most of him being so different we don't share the same bond. I think that is why I like talking to him on the phone so much so I can at least hear his opinions, listen to how he sounds and how he takes certain things that I say. I know that isn't fool proof either for how he will act in person - but it makes me feel better.
What I would like to know is - does he now know your age? Does he know that you are a teenager? Also, aside from being there like a good friend, has he specifically done things that suggest he likes you more than a friend? Lastly, does he even live in your state?
Just.. don't get ahead of yourself. It's so easy to be a little different online, even if you don't mean to. It's easier to sound more mature, or to be more sympathetic to someone's struggle even though at the current moment you are more focused on watching TV, etc. I think people often come off as more understanding, accepting, sympathetic, etc online because it's easier. It's easy to do, as someone else posted, *makes you eggs and bacon and brings it to you in bed* - but would they do that in real life? Hard to say for sure.
And for some people, they are open to 'more' online because it's not as real. May not seem like a real relationship, a real commitment. They may be open to *snuggles* and *smooches* and other sort of things, but in real life might not feel ready or not willing to commit quite yet or something.
Does all of that make any sense? I'm just a very aware person and I have met online people in several cases (like met them in real life). Online you don't truly see someone's temper, how they treat others, how they handle situations, and a lot more. So just.. take it slow and make sure you guys feel the same before considering any move with your dad.
Lastly, he is older. Don't ever feel like you have to prove yourself to him, like your sexual prowess or sexual maturity or anything like that. Don't do something you may regret down the road, like sharing revealing pictures or anything.
