Crushes, Boyfriends, and Girlfriends | V4

[cautiousculpeo]

Omg. My life is made!
So the bf and I had a talk.
We stepped up the relationship into hugging. He even told me he is not a fan of kissing. And hates watching people kiss. Omg! This is great!

[Lana1171]

My boyfriends ex/ my ex best friend won't leave us alone and has turned all my friends on me, so I have no friends and she is getting her way and this is what my friends are saying + her:

My friends said my boyfriend started it all, apparently my boyfriend said something to (the ex best friend/ his ex) and I'm sticking up for him
Also, I'm to clingy to him and i spend to much time with him and I should talk to the group more aka my friends more not my boyfriend, It's all me and my boyfriend, (his ex) did nothing wrong, her feelings are getting hurt not us, we should grow up, . my other friend said I should stop hanging around my boyfriend 24/7 so break up basically( we never see each other, he is not in my classes) , They Practically said I should go see his ex/my ex friend and talk to her alone about it, Were getting blamed for the fight and everything , apparently my boyfriend the reason everyone's fighting and the reason everyone's on her side. She's telling everyone I'm not talking to her, but my boyfriend is?

I'm confused she spoke to us about being different when we first started to date we said it might just be you and now she has started all this -.-

[.rin okumura.]

My boyfriends ex/ my ex best friend won't leave us alone and has turned all my friends on me, so I have no friends and she is getting her way and this is what my friends are saying + her:

My friends said my boyfriend started it all, apparently my boyfriend said something to (the ex best friend/ his ex) and I'm sticking up for him
Also, I'm to clingy to him and i spend to much time with him and I should talk to the group more aka my friends more not my boyfriend, It's all me and my boyfriend, (his ex) did nothing wrong, her feelings are getting hurt not us, we should grow up, . my other friend said I should stop hanging around my boyfriend 24/7 so break up basically( we never see each other, he is not in my classes) , They Practically said I should go see his ex/my ex friend and talk to her alone about it, Were getting blamed for the fight and everything , apparently my boyfriend the reason everyone's fighting and the reason everyone's on her side. She's telling everyone I'm not talking to her, but my boyfriend is?

I'm confused she spoke to us about being different when we first started to date we said it might just be you and now she has started all this -.-

Woah ok so personally I would handle this like an adult. Talk to her in a civil manner and if that doesn't work punch her in the nose! No not really you would be sent to the principles.but try ask her why she did this. Andy as a last resort you could always talk to your mom or someone about what they would do! Hope this helped!

[Akele]

My boyfriends ex/ my ex best friend won't leave us alone and has turned all my friends on me, so I have no friends and she is getting her way and this is what my friends are saying + her:

My friends said my boyfriend started it all, apparently my boyfriend said something to (the ex best friend/ his ex) and I'm sticking up for him
Also, I'm to clingy to him and i spend to much time with him and I should talk to the group more aka my friends more not my boyfriend, It's all me and my boyfriend, (his ex) did nothing wrong, her feelings are getting hurt not us, we should grow up, . my other friend said I should stop hanging around my boyfriend 24/7 so break up basically( we never see each other, he is not in my classes) , They Practically said I should go see his ex/my ex friend and talk to her alone about it, Were getting blamed for the fight and everything , apparently my boyfriend the reason everyone's fighting and the reason everyone's on her side. She's telling everyone I'm not talking to her, but my boyfriend is?

I'm confused she spoke to us about being different when we first started to date we said it might just be you and now she has started all this -.-

Wow...how incredibly immature of your friends and also of your ex-best friend.

Your friends are jealous. You have a boyfriend and naturally you want to spend time with him. This is a normal part of having a relationship. They're upset because they're not getting as much attention from you as they used to.

At some point, people have to grow up and accept the fact that your significant other is just that: significant. It's normal to miss someone if you're used to spending a lot of time with someone, but your friends need to try and be happy for you, instead of bringing you down.

With that said, it's also important to continue to nurture the friendships you had with them before you started dating your boyfriend. Friendship is very important! However, if I were you, I'd explain to them that it's very difficult to want to spend any time with them because they're being so petty and immature. Making you feel guilty about wanting to spend time with your boyfriend is not a very good way to let you know they miss you, and I imagine it makes the prospect of hanging out with them about as appealing as swimming in a pool of cockroaches.

As far as your ex-best friend goes: Ignore her. Don't give her the pleasure of letting her know she's gotten under your skin. Someone's negative attitude can only affect you if you let it. Your relationship between your boyfriend and yourself involves no one else but you two. What matters is what your boyfriend thinks of you. Does he think you're too clingy? If not, ignore what everyone else says. Like I said, it's none of their business...and the only person's opinion you should be concerned about, in regards to the status of your relationship, is your boyfriend's.

If they continue to want to fight and argue, tell them that you don't want to. And then go about your business in a calm, mature way. You don't have to be a part of that drama. Let them be miserable. Go do things that make you happy, and let them work themselves into a tizzy, if that's what they're so determined to do. That doesn't mean you have to be a part of it.

Hope that helps.

[ଳ omori ଳ]

Ugh.

So I saw my crush yesterday - I tried to make eye contact with him, but he glanced at me for about a millisecond and looked at the floor? Does this mean he likes me or not?

Ugh I wish I understood boys.

[Thalassic]

Ugh.

So I saw my crush yesterday - I tried to make eye contact with him, but he glanced at me for about a millisecond and looked at the floor? Does this mean he likes me or not?

Ugh I wish I understood boys.

Sorry, but from something like that alone it's impossible for anyone to tell if he has any interest in you.

[ଳ omori ଳ]

Ugh.

So I saw my crush yesterday - I tried to make eye contact with him, but he glanced at me for about a millisecond and looked at the floor? Does this mean he likes me or not?

Ugh I wish I understood boys.

Sorry, but from something like that alone it's impossible for anyone to tell if he has any interest in you.

Okay, so I'll try to give a bit more detail...

We hung out one day, him and a male friend. I explained that my friend, let's call her Mia, was in the library and reading the lion king. We chatted about what lessons we had that afternoon (we don't have any classes together. ;-;) After a while, I whipped out my iPhone and started playing a game. He instantly leaned over my shoulder (I'm about as tall as a forest brownie |D) and kinda half-leaned on me. Then when the bell rang, they said bye to me but he looked over his shoulder once or twice at me. We have to walk in the same direction (ish) for him to go home and me to the bus stop, and we usually end up making accidental eye contact, blushing and looking away.

I've realized that when I don't see him for a while I start to miss him. I don't even know why, it's not like I've known him for years and we're best friends. I end up thinking about him all the time, and I want to get his number or e-mail or Skype or something. I don't think he's particularly popular, but some of my friends in his class may like him and I'm really paranoid that he'll, like, go out with one of them or move away or something. I want to get his number, but I'm really scared! I don't want to make it too obvious that I like him. I have some friends who'd probably be willing to help out, but one of them (claims) says that she's never had a crush on anyone.

Help for both of these would be brilliant. ^•^-b

[Dia.]

Ugh.

So I saw my crush yesterday - I tried to make eye contact with him, but he glanced at me for about a millisecond and looked at the floor? Does this mean he likes me or not?

Ugh I wish I understood boys.

Sorry, but from something like that alone it's impossible for anyone to tell if he has any interest in you.

Okay, so I'll try to give a bit more detail...

We hung out one day, him and a male friend. I explained that my friend, let's call her Mia, was in the library and reading the lion king. We chatted about what lessons we had that afternoon (we don't have any classes together
;-;) After a while, I whipped out my iPhone and started playing a game. He instantly leaned over my shoulder (I'm about as tall as a forest brownie |D) and kinda half-leaned on me. Then when the bell rang, they said bye to me but he looked over his shoulder once or twice at me. We have to walk in the same direction (ish) for him to go home and me to the bus stop, and we usually end up making accidental eye contact, blushing and looking away.

I've realized that when I don't see him for a while I start to miss him. I don't even know why, it's not like I've known him for years and we're best friends. I end up thinking about him all the time, and I want to get his number or e-mail or Skype or something. I don't think he's particularly popular, but some of my friends in his class may like him and I'm really paranoid that he'll, like, go out with one of them or move away or something. I want to get his number, but I'm really scared! I don't want to make it too obvious that I like him. I have some friends who'd probably be willing to help out, but one of them (claims) says that she's never had a crush on anyone.

Help for both of these would be brilliant. ^•^-b

When I post here, I never say "yes he likes you" or "no he doesn't" because truthfully it's impossible to tell. People's minds make up what they want to see and think all the time and a post on the internet isn't going to tell me something magical that can make me say if what you think is true or not.

However, just ask for his email or number or skype. It won't ever happen unless you try.
Start a conversation with him. Say you want to talk to him more. Ask him for his number so you can text him later. OR just give him yours.
You could also put your number in his phone and text yourself so you have his number at the same time.

Everyone is afraid of things being super obvious that they like someone, but at the same time, they want the person to somehow know and like them back and ask them out.
Some risks are worth taking and you know what, it's most likely not going to be super obvious that you like him.
Another point worth mentioning is not to rely on your friends. Just do it yourself. There isn't any "he said, she said". People are going to get the wrong idea. It'll be "more obvious" that you like him if you're afraid to talk to him yourself, since you're worried about that.

[ଳ omori ଳ]

Okay, so I'll try to give a bit more detail...

We hung out one day, him and a male friend. I explained that my friend, let's call her Mia, was in the library and reading the lion king. We chatted about what lessons we had that afternoon (we don't have any classes together
;-;) After a while, I whipped out my iPhone and started playing a game. He instantly leaned over my shoulder (I'm about as tall as a forest brownie |D) and kinda half-leaned on me. Then when the bell rang, they said bye to me but he looked over his shoulder once or twice at me. We have to walk in the same direction (ish) for him to go home and me to the bus stop, and we usually end up making accidental eye contact, blushing and looking away.

I've realized that when I don't see him for a while I start to miss him. I don't even know why, it's not like I've known him for years and we're best friends. I end up thinking about him all the time, and I want to get his number or e-mail or Skype or something. I don't think he's particularly popular, but some of my friends in his class may like him and I'm really paranoid that he'll, like, go out with one of them or move away or something. I want to get his number, but I'm really scared! I don't want to make it too obvious that I like him. I have some friends who'd probably be willing to help out, but one of them (claims) says that she's never had a crush on anyone.

Help for both of these would be brilliant. ^•^-b

When I post here, I never say "yes he likes you" or "no he doesn't" because truthfully it's impossible to tell. People's minds make up what they want to see and think all the time and a post on the internet isn't going to tell me something magical that can make me say if what you think is true or not.

However, just ask for his email or number or skype. It won't ever happen unless you try.
Start a conversation with him. Say you want to talk to him more. Ask him for his number so you can text him later. OR just give him yours.
You could also put your number in his phone and text yourself so you have his number at the same time.

Everyone is afraid of things being super obvious that they like someone, but at the same time, they want the person to somehow know and like them back and ask them out.
Some risks are worth taking and you know what, it's most likely not going to be super obvious that you like him.
Another point worth mentioning is not to rely on your friends. Just do it yourself. There isn't any "he said, she said". People are going to get the wrong idea. It'll be "more obvious" that you like him if you're afraid to talk to him yourself, since you're worried about that.

Okay, thank you for the help! I'll try it tomorrow <3

[thunderofthedrum]

Ok so I made an earlier post about me breaking up with my Boyfriend. His friends are my friends and they recently started hating me for breaking up with him... now we were supposed to be THE couple of our class but we have like NOTHING in common and it was awkward. I dint know what to do.... any suggestions?

Is there any way to let them know you just felt it wasn't meant to be and didn't want to waste his time? There's nothing wrong with realizing you are not attracted to someone who is otherwise a good guy.

My boyfriends ex/ my ex best friend won't leave us alone and has turned all my friends on me, so I have no friends and she is getting her way and this is what my friends are saying + her:

My friends said my boyfriend started it all, apparently my boyfriend said something to (the ex best friend/ his ex) and I'm sticking up for him
Also, I'm to clingy to him and i spend to much time with him and I should talk to the group more aka my friends more not my boyfriend, It's all me and my boyfriend, (his ex) did nothing wrong, her feelings are getting hurt not us, we should grow up, . my other friend said I should stop hanging around my boyfriend 24/7 so break up basically( we never see each other, he is not in my classes) , They Practically said I should go see his ex/my ex friend and talk to her alone about it, Were getting blamed for the fight and everything , apparently my boyfriend the reason everyone's fighting and the reason everyone's on her side. She's telling everyone I'm not talking to her, but my boyfriend is?

I'm confused she spoke to us about being different when we first started to date we said it might just be you and now she has started all this -.-

Woah ok so personally I would handle this like an adult. Talk to her in a civil manner and if that doesn't work punch her in the nose! No not really you would be sent to the principles.but try ask her why she did this. Andy as a last resort you could always talk to your mom or someone about what they would do! Hope this helped!

You could ask her how much time with him is 'too much' and let her know that you aren't even with him 'that' much. You could also let her know that it's none of her business how much time you spend with him and you would really appreciate it if she wouldn't try to put your friends against you since it isn't even their problem. You should still spend time with your friends, sure; boyfriends do come and go and no one likes being replaced by someone they feel is only temporary. But if talking to this girl doesn't work, your only option left may be to simply ignore her.

ANd sure, talking to another adult could definitely help! I'm an adult but I've definitely never been in that situation, sorry.