Crushes, Boyfriends, and Girlfriends | V4

[Dia.]

If you really love someone, you don't break up with them.
It shouldn't matter that other people like you or other people like him.
It really shouldn't if you are together.
And talking about things is really important. I don't understand why this is a a huge mess.. Maybe I'm just not understanding.
To me, it sounds like you don't actually love him... especially since you are considering letting him go. I've been dating my boyfriend for over a year now. I know I love him. I can't even think about breaking up with him even though I feel like other people like him and I tend to get jealous. He's told me he never wants to lose me and this doesn't frighten me or make me what to break up with him.
Don't get mad at me for writing what I'm thinking, since that's what I do on this thread.
I think I'm kind of the devil's advocate here

On a completely separate note because it's just something I've seen here a lot:
The definition of "love" seems very loose these days. >.>

[HorseFan21♞]

On a completely separate note because it's just something I've seen here a lot:
The definition of "love" seems very loose these days. >.>[/center][/size][/color]

Lol not just here. My crush and I just hung out together for like what... 2 days? Before our classmates started labeling us as a couple. I swear someone's got my baby shower covered already. -_________- Geez, we're just in middle school what the heck? =A=

[thunderofthedrum]

If you really love someone, you don't break up with them.
It shouldn't matter that other people like you or other people like him.
It really shouldn't if you are together.

I disagree. If family is SUPER important to someone, like you are close with your family and see them many times a week and respect their opnions and their concerns, yet they really don't like your boyfriend... what do you do? Say you love him very much. It's entirely normal and common for something like that to put strain and tension on the relationship.

Same thing can happen with other values, like religion. People might say 'it shouldn't matter' but if it is a deep part of who you are then of course it matters. Whether the issue of difference will be enough to break up the relationship depends on the couple - and not just their relationship with each other, but it also depends on the relationships with others who might have some influence or input, views and backgrounds of the two people involved, etc.

[Dia.]

If you really love someone, you don't break up with them.
It shouldn't matter that other people like you or other people like him.
It really shouldn't if you are together.

I disagree. If family is SUPER important to someone, like you are close with your family and see them many times a week and respect their opnions and their concerns, yet they really don't like your boyfriend... what do you do? Say you love him very much. It's entirely normal and common for something like that to put strain and tension on the relationship.

Same thing can happen with other values, like religion. People might say 'it shouldn't matter' but if it is a deep part of who you are then of course it matters. Whether the issue of difference will be enough to break up the relationship depends on the couple - and not just their relationship with each other, but it also depends on the relationships with others who might have some influence or input, views and backgrounds of the two people involved, etc.

I think you misunderstood me.
When I said "it shouldn't matter that other people like you or other people like him" I meant it shouldn't matter if other people wanted to date him or her.

I totally agree with the whole thing that if your family doesn't like your boyfriend or whatever, that's a problem. I wasn't talking about that though.

[Lazy9248]

Okay, I posted a little while ago about possibly telling the guy I like that I like him. I told him and so far he seems okay with it. It wasn't hard and he took it really well... We are close friends and nothing has really changed... I'm just happy that I told him... Even if he just wants to stay friends I really don't mind I just really needed to tell him and I feel so much better. Thank you to all of you that told me to tell him because that was very helpful...

[Insurgent]

Thank you thunder!
(I feel the same, he discusses having kids and I just go 'nope' and kind of panic. xD)
Dia, of course I love him. He is my boyfriend. I am not an idiot and I do love him. I find it to be hurtful when you say that I don't love him because I am having doubts about our relationship. Hmmm...For example, if you were in a fight with your family, or perhaps your best friend, it doesn't mean that you don't love them. You know? You may not be happy with them, but that anger or whatever other emotion is causing that rift, does not- can never- block out your love for those people.
It's hard for me. Imagine being called names and being glared at ALL DAY. His mother isn't fond of me because I am an atheist and she is a very religious person. So pretty much, no matter where I am, I am looked down upon. It makes for a lot of excess stress for myself and I do not handle stress well. I do go to counseling and recently I have been assigned to make a gratitude journal. And every. single. day. I still continue to write about him, so please refrain from saying that I do not love him. I love him.

[Wesley]

I loved reading the stories that you all had! I read every one... reflects on how much time I spend on here |D

Thanks for the little comments here and there on my story, too. ^^

We were already in love, so the first time we said it to each other we both already knew how we felt. Then, a year after we met, she brought me back to the spot we first met and gave me my promise ring. At the time, in my state, gay marriage wasn't legal...but she asked me to be her 'forever girlfriend'. Six years later and gay marriage still isn't legal...but we're planning on moving to a state where it is legal and getting married by the end of this year. C:

Today is her birthday, and I feel so blessed to have her in my life. C: My soul mate winded up being another girl, lol! It was surprising, but I dare say it was the best surprise of my life. C:

This is easily the cutest story I've ever heard! c: Good for you two, I hope all goes well with the plans to marry ^^

[Pongo.]

*sighs* me and chris have grown apart in the past couple of months D'x i wish he never let his phone run out of service, it kills me knowing that we've grown apart :'( i just wish he would talk to me :'( i know im only in highschool, but, hes first person ive ever loved, and i just want us back to how we used to be...

[Insurgent]

*sighs* me and chris have grown apart in the past couple of months D'x i wish he never let his phone run out of service, it kills me knowing that we've grown apart :'( i just wish he would talk to me :'( i know im only in highschool, but, hes first person ive ever loved, and i just want us back to how we used to be...

Aw, what's going on? :c

[Koujaku;]

my crush has v good taste in music.