Crushes, Boyfriends, and Girlfriends | V4

[Ameryth]

I LIKE TWO BOYS!!! what do i do?

there's something i heard one time:
"if you love two people, choose the second person, because if you truly loved the first person you wouldn't have fallen for the second."
or something along those lines.
i think it still somewhat applies to your case, too.

I'm in love with two people too....
one is not in my class.. but when I see him my heart skips a beat ;-;
and the other is in my class.
I liked the one in my class since I first saw him, same as the other.

[Thalassic]

I LIKE TWO BOYS!!! what do i do?

there's something i heard one time:
"if you love two people, choose the second person, because if you truly loved the first person you wouldn't have fallen for the second."
or something along those lines.
i think it still somewhat applies to your case, too.

I do agree with this, but at the same time, I feel like 90% of people asking for advice on here are, what, middle-high school? Chances are they don't love these people, just like or crush on them. So yeah, I'd say be their friend, but don't look for a relationship yet.

[horse .]

Isn't it the best feeling when the guy you like tells you your beautiful?

Ahhh my heart is gonna melt <3

[thunderofthedrum]

Isn't it the best feeling when the guy you like tells you your beautiful?

Ahhh my heart is gonna melt <3

It is definitely a nice sensation!
My boyfriend texted me that today and also said he'd go with me to a concert of people I like. *___* I already bought the tickets. It's a band where people tend to bounce/grind/just meet people, so.. it'll be super duper nice to have my boyfriend there with me. I've seen them live once before but I got my best friend to go - who doesn't dance much and I think feels distinctly uncomfortable dancing with guys without knowing their whole life stories. xD And I'm here like "Meh, it's not like we're making out and I'll never see them again". So yeah, definitely nice to be dating someone and get to do this with him! We've seen his friend's band several times but this will be different - it's not rock that will kill your ears and that you sing along to like his friend's band.

So yeah, I never see live music or even really go out so this will be amazing - music I like, and if I want to dance super close I know it'll be with my boyfriend. My friends are welcome to come but my boyfriend and I might totally become oblivious to the rest of the world. It'll be even better because I'll make him be the designated driver. >8D
*____*
PLEASE COME SOONER, MARCH.
Nevermind that I'll have just turned a freaking quarter century by that time.

[Keletheryl]

I LIKE TWO BOYS!!! what do i do?

there's something i heard one time:
"if you love two people, choose the second person, because if you truly loved the first person you wouldn't have fallen for the second."
or something along those lines.
i think it still somewhat applies to your case, too.

I do agree with this, but at the same time, I feel like 90% of people asking for advice on here are, what, middle-high school? Chances are they don't love these people, just like or crush on them. So yeah, I'd say be their friend, but don't look for a relationship yet.

I agree with that too, but in the case of liking two people, I think it's not really a problem unless you start getting a lot closer to one and still like the other. Then it become a problem.
At one time in my life, I liked six guys at once. Six! But it wasn't a bad thing, cause I wasn't that close to any of them! Lol.
I'd also like to add; there is no age limit for which people can fall in love. You know how I know that? Two reasons;
One, I am at sophomore level in high school, and I've liked a lot of people throughout the years. But I met this guy, and I'm pretty sure I am in love with him. Why? Because i've never, and I mean, NEVER, felt this way about anybody else.
Two; love comes in different variates, and little children can love their parents. They might not be able to grasp the concept of loving another person like we know today, but they do love.

[Thalassic]

there's something i heard one time:
"if you love two people, choose the second person, because if you truly loved the first person you wouldn't have fallen for the second."
or something along those lines.
i think it still somewhat applies to your case, too.

I do agree with this, but at the same time, I feel like 90% of people asking for advice on here are, what, middle-high school? Chances are they don't love these people, just like or crush on them. So yeah, I'd say be their friend, but don't look for a relationship yet.

I agree with that too, but in the case of liking two people, I think it's not really a problem unless you start getting a lot closer to one and still like the other. Then it become a problem.
At one time in my life, I liked six guys at once. Six! But it wasn't a bad thing, cause I wasn't that close to any of them! Lol.
I'd also like to add; there is no age limit for which people can fall in love. You know how I know that? Two reasons;
One, I am at sophomore level in high school, and I've liked a lot of people throughout the years. But I met this guy, and I'm pretty sure I am in love with him. Why? Because i've never, and I mean, NEVER, felt this way about anybody else.
Two; love comes in different variates, and little children can love their parents. They might not be able to grasp the concept of loving another person like we know today, but they do love.

Yes, but that doesn't change the fact that even if you happen to fall in love at age 5, it is not always the best idea to be in a relationship. [example] And when someone gets a crush, what do they do most of the time? They think they love this person and want to be in a relationship. And just. Don't rush things?? If it's love, then things will happen, if not , then things will happen a different time. And it just pains me to see all these middle-high schoolers so eager to get in a relationship when probably a good 70% of them or more have not even experienced this kind of love yet.

[kayla;]

Hey everyone!
I have a crush question, it's very general to whether or not he likes me. Well here it is:
So, my name's Kayla BTW. His is Tanner. So, he moved to my school last year, but the first time I saw him, I thought he was just another boy. But when I got to know him, he turned out to be a sweet, cute, short XD, spunky, tough sporty boy. I have had an ongoing crush on him for about a year and a half, which he knows about. We ride the same bus, and I'm in two classes with him. A few things I have seen him do for a while is this:

-Getting my stuff and handing it to me when I drop it
-Stares
-Dances with me (Waltz!!! )
-Smiles and is nice around me
-Act silly together

But anyways, we talk almost everyday, more or less. He says I'm nice, crazy, and funny, which I am, but this means a lot to me. XD So, a few stories I will share here about him and me:
-One time, he got in trouble on the bus, so he was sitting in the front. I got on, and he smiled at me like he was crazy or something. XD
-On the bus, we always do super bad things that could get us in trouble, but we have a fun time doing them. Today we were shooting cheeseballs at highschoolers, the other day we were annoying this girl, but she poured water on us both.

IDK. I just think we are meant for eachother. I can imagine us having a future tog
ether. And plus, he's only one day older than me. ONE. XD So anyways, reply back here or PM me. Thanks!
XOXO, Hassie AKA Kayla

No offense, but from the things you said here, it definitely does not sound to me like either of you would be ready for a relationship. You do have a friendship going on, but it's hard to say if he likes you more than that, since you act more like friends when together.

[kayla;]

Alrite thanks for the response. If anyone has more input, please PM me or post here ! I wl try and get out of the friend zone

[Princess Porcelain]

Okay, so...*bites lip* There's this guy I met at church (well, we knew each other before that but we never really talked) and he's kind of my ex's cousin and best friend. I'm still good friends with my ex, but lately my ex has been teasing his cousin about me and he sort of smiles whenever I'm around his cousin, like he knows something I don't. His cousin has also been acting pretty weird lately, talking to me at random times (he never even bothered with me before because I watch anime and he thinks that's dumb), following me around (my ex follows him, which is even weirder), asking about my life and sort of acting nervous/blushing and averting his gaze around me when I notice he's looking my direction. All of his friends hang around me a lot more often (I'm friends with several of his friends, including his ex-girlfriend) and they like to tease us about each other.

So lately, as you can expect, I've gotten suspicious. I've looked up 5 or 6 articles and several quizzes on how to tell if he's interested in me, and all of them got the same result: he is EXTREMELY interested in me. But what I didn't tell you is that I have a crush on him, too, but things are complicated and I don't know if we can be together. First, I'm afraid of what my ex will say. He and I are good friends even though we broke up, and I don't want to ruin the relationship by dating his cousin/best friend(interchangeable terms for the same guy). I don't have a whole lot of friends as it is (I'm very shy and skittish and I don't like to leave my house unless it is to visit my cousins or my good friends/best friends) maybe six or seven people that I actually trust. A lot of this is because I'm a bit of a nerd and so no one really wants to hang out with me. That's not to say that that's all I am -- I love punk rock, being out in the open country/woods, hunting, fishing, and weapons. I'm more of a tomboy than anything. But I digress. As I was saying, I don't want to lose any of my friends because not very many people want to be my friend. They don't even try to look past my nerdy exterior and try to get to know me. So I really don't wanna lose him because he's one of the few people that actually bothers with me anymore.

Another problem is, I may be moving soon (for reasons I'm not allowed to post on the Internet) and after I move we won't be able to see or talk to each other for several weeks because I'll be busy getting settled in. My third problem is that none of my friends (that aren't his friends) like him, my sister hates him with a passion, and my dad would kill me if I got a boyfriend. (I got grounded for two weeks just for asking someone out -- my last relationship ended because of my dad.) Plus, my dad automatically thinks that I must like any guy I hang out with because I'm a teenager and that's what teenagers do. Uhm...NO. I only have three friends that are female, the rest of my good friends/really good friends are guys. I love to tease my friends(my y-chromosome buddies especially), so don't get me wrong, but I don't like every guy I meet. Plus, most of my guy friends are dating other people or are going out with my best friend (my favorite techie and my best friend ever have been together for 3 years now). But anyway, as I've said, not many people I know like my ex's cousin except me and his friends. I'd have a mob after me if anyone knew I was with him.

At the same time, though, I want to be with him, and I'm almost positive the feeling is mutual. I don't want to hurt him by telling him we can't be together, but I don't know how he would handle having to keep our relationship a secret from everyone except me, his cousin, and my best friend. (Meaning we can't hang out alone, we can't act romantic in public, etc, etc.) But the thing is, we rarely see each other outside of church because my dad doesn't like for me to hang out with my guy friends and I'm homeschooled. I'd have to find a really good way to be able to see him more often without my family or my friends finding out. My final problem is I don't want to rush things, and I feel like all of his friends (and the few of my friends that like him) are trying to set us up together. I hate being rushed into things, and I don't believe rushing into relationships is a very good idea. I want to give us both some time to think about our feelings (because he doesn't know I like him back yet -- I've become good at hiding it when I like somebody for obvious reasons) and to find out whether or not I'll be committed to the relationship if we ever get together. I want to get to know him better to see if he's really the person I want to be with, but at the same time, if he is, I don't want him to lose interest in me before I get up the courage to let him know I feel the same way. I've been in love before (it was his cousin -- my ex who I was talking about -- don't ask because it's kind of a painful topic for me) and even though the relationship was kind of short (6 months, as opposed to two years with the guy I was with before him) I knew I loved him, and I still do love him, but as a friend and not a romantic interest.

I know how love goes and I don't believe in love at first sight(that's just an obsession with how they look, not caring about who they are), "fairy tale endings" (boy meets girl, boy kisses girl, both live happily ever after and have lots of kids -- heck, I don't want kids for at least another 10 or 15 years), or that you'll marry the first person you date (he was a big mistake -- I found out he was cheating on another girl with me 3 days after we got together -- the other girl told me and we both broke up with him). I believe in waiting until after marriage for intercourse (it's against my religion to do otherwise) and I don't even want to adopt a kid before I get married because I believe kids need two parents of opposite genders present in their lives to grow up well, adopted or biological. I believe that it's possible to love someone you've only known for a few weeks, but that it would be very hard, and I know that sometimes it's hard to tell the difference between love and a huge crush.

All this is why I'm afraid of just rushing into things like most girls my age do -- and they end up heartbroken two weeks later, or doing the heartbreaking. As a matter of fact, until recently I wasn't sure if I ever wanted to get another boyfriend because of what happened with my ex -- I loved him and it had to end because we weren't hiding it well enough and my dad is a jerk. (There are more descriptive words for his particular brand of jerk, but I am against cussing so I won't. He's abusive to me and to my mother, though. Can't say much beyond that as it would probably mean three weeks without a cell phone, being yelled at by him and given a lecture by my mother about how I shouldn't talk about our situation.) But, yeah...I need a lot of help. I don't feel like this is something I can go at alone anymore. And, uh, there's one other thing I forgot to mention -- don't write me off just because I seem like your average female teenager and say "Don't bother; teenagers don't know what love is. You should just wait until you're older and then you'll know." Haha, very funny...I forgot to laugh. I have had my IQ tested multiple times -- it's definitely over 200, and I'm not lying or trying to brag. I know I'm smart, but I'm not THAT vain. I'm not hung up on myself. My cousin has a higher IQ than I do -- he's one a good friend and he's a genius! But anyway, if I'm old enough to contemplate the space-time continuum, quantum physics, and win an argument about how the only logical explanation for the universe is that there is a God (which I have done) I think I'm old enough to know what love is. I know most people my age don't, but generally I don't hang out with people my age. My friends are older, and those that aren't (like my crush) have a genius IQ, too.

[Thalassic]

@-Red the Wolf-
Your IQ really has nothing whatsoever to do with knowing or not knowing love. IQ is mainly your ability of problem solving and such, which is just a tiny part of intelligence, and emotional intelligence is a whooole different thing. Now, I know that you are not allowed to list your age on here, but from the fact that you have been in several long-ish relationships, I'll assume you're in your mid-late teens.

Really, don't stress about love. If it happens, it happens. Like you said yourself, getting to know him would be the best thing to do in this situation. Talk to your friends about him, let them know you think he's cool and that you don't want to be hated for hanging out with him, and then hang out with him. Not as lovers, but as friends. Get to know him until your dad no longer rules over your life, and then see if there's any potential for anything more in the relationship.