Onew~ wrote:i'm kind of wondering if my friend at school is even a... friend.
she's always talking about how disgusting bullying, judging, etc. is. then she turns around and casually mistreats people.
she makes them feel stupid. she makes them feel a bit inferior. maybe it's unintentional and she doesn't know what she's doing.
sometimes she's helpful and nice to me, and other times she's just too lazy to bother with me and just hangs out with me because i'm funny and do relatively funny things(i guess?). i do a bunch of favors for her because i LIKE helping people out. i'll get her books for her or turn something in for her, and i'll help her get her supplies for something(scissors, art supplies, paper, worksheets etc... whatever i'm getting and i can just get for her). in return, she rarely does any of those things for me. i ask her simple questions, such as "how do we do this" "can you help me figure this out", and she says no. i ask why, and she says something like "because you're a stupid egg". "egg" is her word/insult when she calls people stupid, ignorant, rude, etc.
i don't appreciate you, or, ANYONE insulting me or anyone else as a "joke". because you know what?
it's. not. funny. it's one thing if you're just saying "you're so dumb" and we all laugh about it, it's another thing if i make a genuine or embarrassing mistake and you laugh and call me stupid, or if you call me a slur.
and also, i can't trust her. i tell her a simple, mildly embarrassing thing and she ends up telling everyone i know-- which is why i won't trust her. it's a simple thing, yes, that ends up with me blushing a bit, no more, no less. but does it show that she'll tell someone something more personal? yes.
Someone I used to consider my best friend was exactly like this towards me. After we graduated High School I realized what a two-faced backstabber she really was. She turned so many people against me and made me look like the bad guy.
I've forgiven her as far as that can go, but I'm no longer friends with her.
Kick her out of your life, the sooner the better. Once you let go of someone like that, it's like a huge weight off your shoulders and you feel free. They're not worth keeping around, and it took me almost 6 years to realize it. The best and probably only advice I can give, is ditch her. Tell her you're tired of it and just don't deal with her anymore. She may make you out to be a real "B", but let people think what they want. Your real friends know what's going on. It's better to make new friends and start from scratch, as hard as it is. But really, it's not worth it. Don't take that treatment from anyone.
-Cellar
I've forgiven her as far as that can go, but I'm no longer friends with her.
Kick her out of your life, the sooner the better. Once you let go of someone like that, it's like a huge weight off your shoulders and you feel free. They're not worth keeping around, and it took me almost 6 years to realize it. The best and probably only advice I can give, is ditch her. Tell her you're tired of it and just don't deal with her anymore. She may make you out to be a real "B", but let people think what they want. Your real friends know what's going on. It's better to make new friends and start from scratch, as hard as it is. But really, it's not worth it. Don't take that treatment from anyone.
-Cellar
