HEY PEEEPS LISTEN UP!!!! IMPORTANT (to me) Q coming Your way

[zoomykitty]

Ok okay, I know that CS isn't an advice column or anything like that, so if you're not interested in giving any advice, this topic probably isn't for you.

So here's the scenerio:
A guy I know used to be really nice to me and flirt with me a lot. We became super amazing friends, but both of us seemed to have intentions in being more than friends. We got each-other's numbers, and started to flirt WAY more than before. Then he told me he likes me, and I told him I did too, so for a while we decided, since he doesn't believe in dating (which, you know, I'm a seventh grader, so it's totally cool with me) we ended up being 'friends with benefits'. Problem was, he wanted more than I was offering when it came to benefits. (You know what I mean; things that you should NEVER text or do till you're older than my age)

We kissed, and I ended up breaking pretty much every rule my parents had set in my entire lifetime. He was what most people call a 'bad influence'. So then, we sorta decided that being just friends would work better.

Later, he became a total jerk to EVERYONE, especially when I told him I didn't have feelings for him anymore. I told him he was being rude and if anything was happening he could tell me, and he totally ignored me every time I brought anything up, in text and otherwise.

But wait, there's more!!! Now this guy is obsessed with a girl I'm pretty sure isn't interested in him, and somehow, I'm pretty jealous of her. Every time I think about how he's being a jerk and he's not even that cute, I just picture when we kissed, and I can't feel mad at him.

SO I have two questions now:
1) Do you think there was reasons why he's being a total jerkface?
2) How the heck do I get over him??????

[Styracosaurus]

since he doesn't believe in dating (which, you know, I'm a seventh grader, so it's totally cool with me) we ended up being 'friends with benefits'.

Things like this make me want to cry.

I bet he's being a jerkface because..well..how do I say this...I can't without people going "omg don't use naughty language"
whatever.
How to get over him? Stop talking to him. Just break off all contact.

[zoomykitty]

Thanks for the response!! I mean, I agree, but it's really hard since he rides my bus and I just feel like punching the girl he likes to kingdom come. I will try to avoid him, though. It's also hard because I'm trying to get over him without completely losing him forever as a friend, because that would probably ruin my 'first kiss experience' for good.

[KoolAid&Cyanide]

He's probably being a jerk, because, believe it or not, he's not over you. People have different ways of handling things, and that might be his way of handling it. there could be other reasons, too. And you can't make yourself get over him. Iknow it sucks, but you just have to let it happen. A few that help is that if you try not to think about him, only text him if he texts you, etc. It also helps if you're in different cleasses. Last year I had a crush on this guy and then realized I really needed to get over it, but I just couldn't, and now I'm in a different class than he is, so it helps a lot.

[zoomykitty]

Yeah I'll definitely try the ignoring idea! I'm going to school in half an hour so it'll be a good time to try it.

[MiniHorse]

And when you come back, he might just want to MAKE you jealous by FAKING liking the girl

[Ventru]

And when you come back, he might just want to MAKE you jealous by FAKING liking the girl

I also got the same idea

If he's FIRST a jerk and then suddenly over-obsessed with a girl..

I think its obvious x'd

[MiniHorse]

Lol yes

He's trying to make you jealous, so just get over him! He's an evil person (No offense), not good enough for you, you can do better than him. At least you're not as low as him doing that.

[zoomykitty]

Well just in case this clarifies anything, he was liking her before I told him I was over him, and also, when I told him I wasn't interested in him as more than a friend, all he said was 'good'

[MiniHorse]

Then you should try keeping your mind off of him, don't even THINK about him, even when you see him, think about a book that you like or something that will NOT let your mind float towards him.