Rated R wrote:thunderofthedrum wrote:My boyfriend said he's getting me a present (my birthday is today).
I just.. I don't even.. KJAHSFKJSAHDF. Ex was an idiot and would flake out so I didn't even see him around my birthday that year. Met my boyfriend this same time last year so this is the second year he's wished me a happy birthday. And to get me a present.. *__* I feel awful that I made him cupcakes for his in October but he kept saying not to get him anything and I had NO idea what I would buy anyway. And he loves when I bring him treats, but meh.
I'm just.. really happy he even wants to get me a present. Perhaps it's dumb; we've been dating about a year now, so that's perfectly reasonable, but I haven't really had guys buy me things. And I just found out my family won't be able to celebrate my birthday this weekend as planned because they'll all be out of town at the hunting cabin (it's not even hunting season!) except for my mom and me. No brothers, no nephews, no family friends. So much for worrying what I wanted us to cook on the grill, hamburgers or fajitas.. So yeah, boyfriend being so amazing is just.. HITTING ME RIGHT IN THE FEELS, DAWG.
happy birthday thunder <3
THANKS!!
He took me shopping at Target and spent like $70 on me.. O__o' Took me out for food, and the next day we went disc golfing with his dog (which I adore) and his friend (who let me play with his fancypants Canon Rebel camera the whole time). I'm bringing him as my date to my friend's wedding this weekend. He's even trying to match my bridesmaid colours. XD
Anyway, I recently read I book I'd like to recommend to all the girls in here (which about 99% of the posters).
It's called
Hooking Up: a girl's all out guide to Sex & Sexuality, by Amber Madison.
It addresses everything from dating to knowing your body to 'am I gay' to STDs to sex myths to body image to rape, with tons of resources for information and help for every issue discussed. Also, it says she's just recently graduated, so she's probably in early to mid twenties - she's not some old conservative person who thinks it's all taboo to talk about.
Niverdia wrote:I'd probably agree about going with your heart about this.
However, recently I had a similar situation, although it was with someone I didn't know well at the time - we've been hanging out through our local dA member group and some weeks ago he admitted he had a big crush on me and asked if we could maybe hang out privately and get to know each other better (in a less creepy way than I'm probably making this sound, ahaha) and although I didn't think much of him and wasn't attracted to him from the get-go, I went along with that. Turns out, however, that he's one of the potentially most compatible people I've ever met, with similar life experiences, interests and a very nice cuddler. I think we might even realistically build a relationship, and I don't think I've ever felt like this (the realistic chance part, that is) about anyone I've had feelings for or have had something going with.
Note that I'm an adult, not a teenager and am currently just rambling about stuff. :u
I ALMOST went to a local dA meet but the girl who was going to ride with me bailed at the last moment and I had an exam the next day, so I never went. Poop. ANYWAY, I kind of get what you're saying. When I met my boyfriend we were actually very different (SUPER different) but we liked those differences. He had things in common with my brothers (being able to fix anything, for example), and he actually talked to me, a lot. He started out as a little possibility I wasn't putting any faith in, but the more we talked, the more I realised I liked him, I felt comfortable with him, I even trusted him. He admires that I'm pursuing a degree and I adore that he plays and snuggles with his pets. Neither of us feel the need to be attached at the hip and appreciates that sense of independence from the other.
So yeah, you never know unless you give it a chance. Talking is where it all starts. We've been together for a year now, and I feel so silly yet relaxed about it, like I want to say SEE, I CAN HAVE A REAL RELATIONSHIP (and just be giddy he still really likes me), and yet I know I'd lose the edge of cool by announcing it so I stay all laid back and take it in stride. XD