Asesina Hernandez wrote:StreamWolf wrote:Asesina Hernandez wrote:Caught my boyfriend flirting with someone else. I then stopped talking to him. Three weeks later I decided to get together and forget it. left the room to get the popcorn. Came back seeing him kiss my cousin. She said "Oh, he's your boyfriend?" and there I just had it. I kicked them out and threw a couple knives at them (they all missed). THEN, oh you won't believe this. We were hanging out at my friends and he was trying to frikkin cuddle with me! wth?! You think you can break my heart and you can just do that and it'll all be chill? Hell no!
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I read this and my moth was hanging open. In my opinion, that is completely inappropriate behavior for your boyfriend and it would be a good idea to officially break up with him.
I did and he says he misses me! I can't frikkin believe him.
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Putting aside my absolute disapproval for throwing knives at him (there is NO excuse for that, EVER), what he did is inexcusable. It was selfish of him, careless of your feelings, and downright wrong. Tell him you can't trust him, that if he really cared he wouldn't do that, whatever you want. But I wouldn't give him another chance.
Although to say one thing - when you ignored him for 3 weeks, did he think you guys had broken up? You need to be very clear with where you guys stand.
guilli96 wrote:My boy's up from Canada tp spend winter vacation with me, we've been skype dating for a year and a half, but now that he's here mom thinks that we need to slow down a bit. Apparently we kiss too much. And my dad goes nuts practically when ever we hug or nibble on each others ears. Should I take it down a notch?
Yes, I would say so. Dating online is very different from the physical intimacy of being together in the same room. Also, I'm guessing you are around 16ish, so in my opinion it was already really cool of your parents to let him come stay with you guys. Nibbling on ears - why on earth would you do that in front your parents at all?! I feel weird just about kissing my boyfriend in front of people I know, like that's just not a part of my life they need to really be included in, and also PDA. I'm their daughter, sister, friend, and not only is it none of their business (granted, I'm an adult), but also I wouldn't want them watching.
Especially if this is y'all's first time to actually spend time together - I would slow down. You're their baby girl; I'm sure it worries them that you seem to be so serious with this guy already who they don't even really know, also I'm sure they don't like seeing you kiss at all (particularly your dad), and might wonder that this fast pace might continue until you do something regrettable, like losing your virginity too soon, too fast, or without using protection. Now, you may be convinced that won't happen, but your parents might not feel so sure. You are living under their roof and you are a minor, so you technically answer to them for a while longer.
I'm an adult but my mom doesn't like me staying the night with my boyfriend, who lives 30 minutes away. So, while I'm here visiting for Christmas, I try to respect that and keep the drama down by spending only a few hours with him at a time and coming back by midnight. I am not their little child anymore but I am still staying in their house and I respect them very much.
Basically yes - I would say definitely slow down. I would have a heart attack if I saw my 16 year old daughter nibbling ears with a guy in my own house. It would make me worry that she is too easy, getting too serious, and what is she doing when I'm NOT around?! They are adults - they know what it's like to make big mistakes, to experience heartbreak, to have and raise a child. They want the best for you and although you probably don't want their advice or lectures, they probably do usually have some good points. So respect them and, after all, respect yourself! Doesn't hurt to take a step back and think about whether maybe you ARE going too fast with the physical things now that he's with you. You are young and have the world ahead of you.
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