Crushes, Boyfriends and Girlfriends | V3

[PhoenixRising]

Phoenix;

Yeah I guess...

Everyone has qualities he/she thinks are terrible for their crush to find out. For me personality, it's procrastination and super sarcasm. :O So instead of hiding them, I bring them into the spotlight. I try and not care about what others think of my personality with or without my friends. They can either accept me or move on. That way, I can attract the right guy who knows about my flaws yet likes me for them. ^^ (Not sure I'm making sense or not.)

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Phoenix;

Yeah I guess...

Everyone has qualities he/she thinks are terrible for their crush to find out. For me personality, it's procrastination and super sarcasm. :O So instead of hiding them, I bring them into the spotlight. I try and not care about what others think of my personality with or without my friends. They can either accept me or move on. That way, I can attract the right guy who knows about my flaws yet likes me for them. ^^ (Not sure I'm making sense or not.)

Yeah you are. I'm gonna hang out with JO tomorrow morning. Wish me luck!!!

[Nimble Awesomeness]

So I'm just curious... Is this a discussion thread or not? I thought there was already a dating/crush advice thread, but everyone seems to come here... I thought this was just a place to discuss random things and such; am I wrong?

As I say on the front page, (also to you personally in a post a while ago) and what almost every thread before this has said, is that this thread is for ANYTHING related to crushes, boyfriends, girlfriends, etc. This includes, but is not limited to, giving advice, asking for advice, and exchanging theories (I.e. About the best way to ask someone out, why people do what when they feel attraction to someone). There is already a dating advice thread, but everyone comes here because most of the people that give out advice come here.

In a way, you are wrong, as it's not JUST for discussing things. But you're also right in the fact that we can discuss random things. If you want to discuss stuff, you totally can, but it's also a place where people can seek and give advice.

At the end of school last year I started liking this guy but that went away quickly during the summer because I know he'd never like me. Today being the first full day of school I started seeing him around and he'd say hi to me and watch me pass him in the hallways and because we were good friends I hugged him today and told him I missed him and he didn't try to pull away. Yesterday at the end of the school day I messed up his hair in front of his mom and younger brother and he again, didn't try to pull away. I'm now starting to adapt feelings for him again. Do you think he likes me?

We don't have enough information to really tell if he actually "likes" you. From the way he's acting, it's very possible that he's into you. I wouldn't get too attached though, as guys generally like a flirt. Hugging and messing up his hair is most definitely flirting. I went through a good three months of a crush by just flirting. I realized, unfortunately, afterwards that he had just "liked' me because of the flirting. The moment we would hardly see each other, he never texted me back and was virtually uninterested. (I do admit, I've done that a few times myself to a few poor guys. Britney Spear's song 'Oop's, I did it again' should be my theme song. x.x)

Flirts can be very misleading, believe me, as one myself I would know. You can like him, but be very cautious. Read the front page and take note; do his actions match up with all the things about how to tell if a guy likes you? I don't need to specify; it should be pretty obvious if he really likes you, or flirting with you in comparison to the advice from multiple users. Good luck! Remember, don't get too attached. I wish you the best though, I hope he does like you! :)

Also, thanks for inspiring me! Now I want to write something about how to deal with flirts. ^.^

[PhoenixRising]

So my sarcasm gets me into trouble sometimes when it comes to guys. >_< With the way I use it, the guys all think I'm flirting with them, but I really am not. That's just the normal way I act which in my opinion, is not flirty. It's more like a banter. I would say something, he would reply, and I would try to top that. And so on. I don't know how they see it as me flirting because that's how I act 24/7. .___. There have been instances where the guy goes: "If I didn't know better, I'd think you are flirting with me" or "Are you flirting with me". Of course none is said in a negative way. All said in a.... I don't know.... sly/coy way? I don't know what to do. Sarcasm is my instinct. Telling me to stop or change is like telling me to stop being myself or change myself.

[s y n]

Alright, so there was this guy, A, who I've been extremely close to ever since he transferred to my school in the middle of the year last year. We instantly became best friends and were practically inseparable, and then I started liking him. Since I was so comfortable around him, I just flat-out told him. He didn't really react and I thought "Oh well, we're still besties" and got over him. Then I started dating another guy, M, when A and I started hanging out outside of school, just him and me. We had a great time and instantly I knew that I thought I was over him but I really wasn't. He'd always been showing signs of him liking me and I was 100% sure that he did. Turns out, he did. He confessed his feelings while I was still dating this guy. One day he asked me to come to his baseball game and when I did, I noticed him standing with one of his friends and his friend looked like he asked him something, and A just smiled and pointed at me. Later on, he told me that his friend asked who the girl he liked was, and he had pointed at me. Then afterwards me, him, and my other friend walked around and she was on her bike and he was on his skateboard and I was walking. I playfully complained about being at the back because I was walking and he offered to let me ride his skateboard. I said no because I'm clumsy and would probably fall and kill myself, but he insisted on it and he promised that he'd catch me if I fell. So I reluctantly got on it and he held my hand and pulled me forward and when I hit a rock the skateboard rolled out from under me and his arms were around my waist and he caught me, and I instantly knew that I wasn't anywhere NEAR being over him.

So fast forward a little bit of time and I ended up breaking up with M because we had started to drift apart. A had been writing me cute little notes in class, and our most recent discussion was on how I already gave him two chances to date me and he hadn't noticed, and he was always asking if he'd get a second chance. So on the day that I was going to break up with M, he hands me a little piece of paper and said, "Don't read this until you get home." I waited until I got home and I read it and it simply said, "Please give me another chance." For some reason, this small gesture was so heart-warming to me. I broke up with M and the next day at school A asked me out at break. I had to go to class so I couldn't answer him, but I dropped by his class at lunch and made a sort of 'come here' motion at him. He came over to me and I said yes and he just grinned and ran back into his classroom saying to his friends, "She said yes!" and all the girls aww'd because it was adorable how happy he was and his friends just congratulated him.

So we dated and it was great. We both loved to argue so we'd always playfully argue and fight and stuff, but we truly did love each other. And then, after almost three months, I got a text from him saying that he was breaking up with me. I was completely miserable and broken, and I cried for days on end and didn't touch my phone. Finally, after almost a week (it was a school holiday) my phone rang and I finally answered it. A had called me to tell me that it was his cousin who had sent the text and he had been trying the entire week to explain that to me. We got back together and I was happy.

But then over the summer, he went away on vacation to a place that was two provinces away (yes, I'm Canadian) and our relationship sort of died down. He's not good at texting conversations; he doesn't like to text and doesn't text a lot, plus his phone was often dead and when he texted too much his dad (whom he was on vacation with) often took it away. So we didn't talk a lot and ended up breaking up because we just couldn't maintain the relationship. So, two days ago was the start of school. I was so convinced that I was over him, and I was really sure this time. But the minute I saw him... I had instantly fallen in love all over again.

He was talking to his friend who also happens to be my best friend (that's one of the great things about us, his friends are all my friends so I don't have to worry about him choosing them or me to hang out with since we all hang out together) and he kept looking at me. I wasn't sure why. But then every time I'd say something about meeting a cute guy he'd get all offended. And I'd just say, "What? We aren't dating anymore." and he'd try and make up some excuse to say that we could still be, even though we did break up. He said full-out to me after around ten minutes of walking around the school together and with our friends, "I bet you $20 that I'm going to ask you out within the next week."

At lunch break yesterday, he kept standing and sitting really close to me and wouldn't let anyone else sit near me. And he was always hugging me or leaning against me or something like that. He said, and I quote, "We should date again. We had a lot of good times." and I wasn't quite sure what to say. Then he was getting all playfully sad about something so I came up behind him and put my arms loosely around his neck and put my head on his shoulder and he told me that he still loves me.

Sure enough, after school, he asked me out. I said yes and now we're dating again. He was so happy about it and it was just adorable. We gathered up with our group of friends this morning at school and he announced proudly that we were dating again and my best friend, R, said that he already knew. I asked how and A said that he told him the minute I said yes. R told me about how A was freaking out because he was so happy and A was all shy about it but said that it was true and it was just so extremely cute <3

Today at lunch we were always sitting together and cuddled up with each other and he kept getting really close to me like he was going to kiss me - which would be no big deal since we kissed a lot when we were dating before - but then we'd just stare into each other's eyes. I don't know how to explain the feeling. It was just... Love. Pure love.

I'm so happy <3 After everything we've been through, our relationship has only gotten stronger.

[~*Angel*~]

Alright, so there was this guy, A, who I've been extremely close to ever since he transferred to my school in the middle of the year last year. We instantly became best friends and were practically inseparable, and then I started liking him. Since I was so comfortable around him, I just flat-out told him. He didn't really react and I thought "Oh well, we're still besties" and got over him. Then I started dating another guy, M, when A and I started hanging out outside of school, just him and me. We had a great time and instantly I knew that I thought I was over him but I really wasn't. He'd always been showing signs of him liking me and I was 100% sure that he did. Turns out, he did. He confessed his feelings while I was still dating this guy. One day he asked me to come to his baseball game and when I did, I noticed him standing with one of his friends and his friend looked like he asked him something, and A just smiled and pointed at me. Later on, he told me that his friend asked who the girl he liked was, and he had pointed at me. Then afterwards me, him, and my other friend walked around and she was on her bike and he was on his skateboard and I was walking. I playfully complained about being at the back because I was walking and he offered to let me ride his skateboard. I said no because I'm clumsy and would probably fall and kill myself, but he insisted on it and he promised that he'd catch me if I fell. So I reluctantly got on it and he held my hand and pulled me forward and when I hit a rock the skateboard rolled out from under me and his arms were around my waist and he caught me, and I instantly knew that I wasn't anywhere NEAR being over him.

So fast forward a little bit of time and I ended up breaking up with M because we had started to drift apart. A had been writing me cute little notes in class, and our most recent discussion was on how I already gave him two chances to date me and he hadn't noticed, and he was always asking if he'd get a second chance. So on the day that I was going to break up with M, he hands me a little piece of paper and said, "Don't read this until you get home." I waited until I got home and I read it and it simply said, "Please give me another chance." For some reason, this small gesture was so heart-warming to me. I broke up with M and the next day at school A asked me out at break. I had to go to class so I couldn't answer him, but I dropped by his class at lunch and made a sort of 'come here' motion at him. He came over to me and I said yes and he just grinned and ran back into his classroom saying to his friends, "She said yes!" and all the girls aww'd because it was adorable how happy he was and his friends just congratulated him.

So we dated and it was great. We both loved to argue so we'd always playfully argue and fight and stuff, but we truly did love each other. And then, after almost three months, I got a text from him saying that he was breaking up with me. I was completely miserable and broken, and I cried for days on end and didn't touch my phone. Finally, after almost a week (it was a school holiday) my phone rang and I finally answered it. A had called me to tell me that it was his cousin who had sent the text and he had been trying the entire week to explain that to me. We got back together and I was happy.

But then over the summer, he went away on vacation to a place that was two provinces away (yes, I'm Canadian) and our relationship sort of died down. He's not good at texting conversations; he doesn't like to text and doesn't text a lot, plus his phone was often dead and when he texted too much his dad (whom he was on vacation with) often took it away. So we didn't talk a lot and ended up breaking up because we just couldn't maintain the relationship. So, two days ago was the start of school. I was so convinced that I was over him, and I was really sure this time. But the minute I saw him... I had instantly fallen in love all over again.

He was talking to his friend who also happens to be my best friend (that's one of the great things about us, his friends are all my friends so I don't have to worry about him choosing them or me to hang out with since we all hang out together) and he kept looking at me. I wasn't sure why. But then every time I'd say something about meeting a cute guy he'd get all offended. And I'd just say, "What? We aren't dating anymore." and he'd try and make up some excuse to say that we could still be, even though we did break up. He said full-out to me after around ten minutes of walking around the school together and with our friends, "I bet you $20 that I'm going to ask you out within the next week."

At lunch break yesterday, he kept standing and sitting really close to me and wouldn't let anyone else sit near me. And he was always hugging me or leaning against me or something like that. He said, and I quote, "We should date again. We had a lot of good times." and I wasn't quite sure what to say. Then he was getting all playfully sad about something so I came up behind him and put my arms loosely around his neck and put my head on his shoulder and he told me that he still loves me.

Sure enough, after school, he asked me out. I said yes and now we're dating again. He was so happy about it and it was just adorable. We gathered up with our group of friends this morning at school and he announced proudly that we were dating again and my best friend, R, said that he already knew. I asked how and A said that he told him the minute I said yes. R told me about how A was freaking out because he was so happy and A was all shy about it but said that it was true and it was just so extremely cute <3

Today at lunch we were always sitting together and cuddled up with each other and he kept getting really close to me like he was going to kiss me - which would be no big deal since we kissed a lot when we were dating before - but then we'd just stare into each other's eyes. I don't know how to explain the feeling. It was just... Love. Pure love.

I'm so happy <3 After everything we've been through, our relationship has only gotten stronger.

I am so extremely happy for you! I know exactly what you're talking about when you say pure love and even though you guys went through hard times your relationship has only gotten stronger.

With all of this being said I would like to give you a smidgen of advice. It sounds like whenever you two come to a problem in your relationship you try to work it out but you eventually give up. Remember that all couples go through rough patches, but it's how you handle those rough patches as a couple that really shows in your relationship. Always remember he much you love each other and that together, working as partners and lovers, you will be able to get through anything life throws at you.

I wish only the best of luck and happiness in your relationship.

<3 ~*Angel*~

[Shisien]

Okay I need some help, ilike this guy. Lets call him E. I just meat him this year as for me being a freashman and thus I belive is his second year thereat thehight school. But all ready I have compition... and her being much more prettyer then me I have no clue how to get rid of her and go out with him... But tomorow I still have to go to school wthh my little cold I have here but I was thinking of justsaying to E. "Im tierd... let me lean on you" and stay there holding his arm (in normally steal peoples arms xD) then fake falling asleep then reaching my arms around his wait and see what he recates too it and what she does too... But would that be a bad thing to do or good? Please I would likesome help before tomorow...

[Lana1171]

Okay I need some help, ilike this guy. Lets call him E. I just meat him this year as for me being a freashman and thus I belive is his second year thereat thehight school. But all ready I have compition... and her being much more prettyer then me I have no clue how to get rid of her and go out with him... But tomorow I still have to go to school wthh my little cold I have here but I was thinking of justsaying to E. "Im tierd... let me lean on you" and stay there holding his arm (in normally steal peoples arms xD) then fake falling asleep then reaching my arms around his wait and see what he recates too it and what she does too... But would that be a bad thing to do or good? Please I would likesome help before tomorow...

You can't get rid of he's girlfriend... It's he's choice who he's goes out with and I wouldnt do it just incase he's girlfriend saw you.. That's just my advise lol just be normal I say

[Shisien]

Okay I need some help, ilike this guy. Lets call him E. I just meat him this year as for me being a freashman and thus I belive is his second year thereat thehight school. But all ready I have compition... and her being much more prettyer then me I have no clue how to get rid of her and go out with him... But tomorow I still have to go to school wthh my little cold I have here but I was thinking of justsaying to E. "Im tierd... let me lean on you" and stay there holding his arm (in normally steal peoples arms xD) then fake falling asleep then reaching my arms around his wait and see what he recates too it and what she does too... But would that be a bad thing to do or good? Please I would likesome help before tomorow...

You can't get rid of he's girlfriend... It's he's choice who he's goes out with and I wouldnt do it just incase he's girlfriend saw you.. That's just my advise lol just be normal I say

Lets say here, bith me and that girl wants to date him, he has no girl friend. im not that mean!! i know how that feels too...

[Lana1171]

Okay I need some help, ilike this guy. Lets call him E. I just meat him this year as for me being a freashman and thus I belive is his second year thereat thehight school. But all ready I have compition... and her being much more prettyer then me I have no clue how to get rid of her and go out with him... But tomorow I still have to go to school wthh my little cold I have here but I was thinking of justsaying to E. "Im tierd... let me lean on you" and stay there holding his arm (in normally steal peoples arms xD) then fake falling asleep then reaching my arms around his wait and see what he recates too it and what she does too... But would that be a bad thing to do or good? Please I would likesome help before tomorow...

You can't get rid of he's girlfriend... It's he's choice who he's goes out with and I wouldnt do it just incase he's girlfriend saw you.. That's just my advise lol just be normal I say

Lets say here, bith me and that girl wants to date him, he has no girl friend. im not that mean!! i know how that feels too...

Whoops sorry in that case why not! Lol