Pines River wrote:So I like this guy, and I believe he likes me back, but just a few problems. It's hard to imagine a relationship with him. 1. he's always joking around 2. i can't imagine a heart to heart conversation with him, which is really important to me to be able to have one.
Should I give up now or? if I try what could I do?
Could be a persona he puts up. Maybe he doesn't know you well enough to let down that wall. However, communication is really important in a relationship, and if you can't see you two being able to talk... well, that is something to seriously consider.
When in doubt, go with your instincts. Make a gut decision on what you want to try.
boyf-riends wrote:Oh my l o r d, so i'm a girl who a a crush on well...
A straight girl that has a boyfriend
I've tried getting over it and plus shes one of my good friends and I really don't really know what to do? It's kinda obvious I like her and she has nothing against gays and other lgbtq+ things. Any advice for maybe getting over it? Because, no matter how much I like her I don't want to ruin her relationship or possibly ruin my friendship with her.
Aww, sorry. =( You can try training your mind out of the crush. Any time you have crush-like thoughts, stop and catch yourself and address the thought and make an argument for why it can't or shouldn't be. Like if you think she's cute, stop and correct the thought "yes, she is aesthetically pleasing, but that's the extent of my feelings" or something. Mostly, give it time and be patient with yourself.
Pinesong wrote:Um
I have a massive crush on my best friend
I mean I have already posted on here about what I wanna do about it and I decided that for now I’d just rather be his best friend and maybe be with him later if I was lucky?
But it’s getting harder to just act like I feel nothing but a good friendship between us and thats what I need help with.
How do I act like I feel nothing when I do?
Be conscious of your actions and words and think before you act. Don't overthink it, though. Let yourself just have fun with your friend.
KayKayKitti2000 wrote:So, I and my bf live a ways apart, but not that far, since we go to the same schools. But his schedule is completely different than mine. So we rarely see each other. Maybe 20 min per day. and I never go to town on weekends. but sometimes we meet up with each other. I'm scared it won't work out. Any advice?
Talk with him and see how he's feeling about the relationship. Hearing from him could ease some fears or help you come up with a plan to spend some more time together (although honestly, it sounds like you're doing pretty well). Try to enjoy the now instead of fretting over the future.
Any relationship could fizzle out at any time. If you only spend time worrying about that, you're going to miss having fun in the present and could make these fears come true. What relaxation techniques work for you? Try those before you go to bed or whenever you start getting too anxious.