devilman! wrote:hey guys! so my good friend of 9 years and i were casually talking about our crushes/what caused a crush the other night.
i told him, in all honesty, that i'm the type of person to develop a crush on anyone who shows me even the smallest bit of kindness.
so he asks me if i ever had a crush on him. i think about it for a while, i could see all the signs i've shown over this course of time and i was like "well, yeah. it's safe to say i probably had a crush on you in the past. maybe i still do, who knows." so he tells me he felt/feels the same, gets jealous of my brother figure a lot, and i took that as an "oh! well.. maybe this is the start of something."
of course i failed to remember his ex just broke it off with him and he's still coping. so we're talking for a bit, and the next text i get kind of reaffirms the fact that that entire conversation was a sort of coping mechanism for him. he tells me he just confessed to his old friend that has a relationship AND CHILD with another man and it's not going well for him (of course) and i kind of just.. feel my heart break? he drug that admission out of me and stomped on it. it was humiliating and it's been doing wonders to my morale since then.
but the thing is, we've been so close for so long i just keep talking to him like nothing happened. even if he keeps bringing up his ex,
or his "new" love.
You should talk to him. Don't internalize your hurt. Just because he's hurting doesn't make it okay for him to hurt you. Talk to him. Work this out. </3
unimpressed wrote:So I told a guy I like him, and he just replied with 'lol'. Now me and this guy are good friends and he wanted to know who I liked. And so I told him that it was him and later on that day I asked him about it he didn't remember saying it, but he said sorry. I honestly don't know what to do.. I like him but he doesn't like me and we still talk like normal but i'm confused because he never said he didn't yet never said he did..
If he liked you and wanted to do something about it, he would have told you that. I'd take his silence as "I don't have a crush on you, but I don't want to hurt your feelings" and leave that be as a friendship!