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[border collies.]

Ugh whatever, your just being annoying now... And I'm not good at describing cats or whatever so just look up Boo in the 'Search this Topic" box thingy.

[amylovescallie.]

Hiya darlings!
I'm new to this thread here and i was wondering, some cats can be stuck up and all superior like but is there a way to make them more friendly and less standoffish?
xx

[border collies.]

Well, it depends on how old your cat is, like if young it will be easier and older will be a bit harder.

[Cardinal]

Saracirce, everybody has their own methods. You're just acting bitter now.

Because inflicting pain or fear on an animal is awesome, right?

Theres no reason to scare or hurt an animal, sorry. Removing reinforces is the way to go. Know what my older male does when the younger hellion bites and harasses him? Makes a noise that says "thats enough" and removed himself completely from the younger one for a time then goes back to play on his terms. Its the exact same method I use on my cats.

Taken from a ca behaviorist who has written many many awesome books:

If your cat has his teeth on your hand, don’t pull away because that will cause him to instinctively bite down more. Prey tries to pull away and you don’t want to imitate prey when your hand is in your cat’s mouth. Instead, freeze, say a high pitched “ouch” to momentarily confuse your cat and let him know this has caused pain and the game is no longer fun. At the same time, gently push your hand toward your cat’s mouth. This will cause your cat to disengage. Moving your hand in the direction of the cat is totally confusing to him because prey would never act that way. This action is what will cause your cat to release his hold on you.

Taken from http://www.catbehaviorassociates.com

[♡ A l l y C a t ♡]

Saracirce, everybody has their own methods. You're just acting bitter now.

Because inflicting pain or fear on an animal is awesome, right?

Theres no reason to scare or hurt an animal, sorry. Removing reinforces is the way to go. Know what my older male does when the younger hellion bites and harasses him? Makes a noise that says "thats enough" and removed himself completely from the younger one for a time then goes back to play on his terms. Its the exact same method I use on my cats.

Taken from a ca behaviorist who has written many many awesome books:

If your cat has his teeth on your hand, don’t pull away because that will cause him to instinctively bite down more. Prey tries to pull away and you don’t want to imitate prey when your hand is in your cat’s mouth. Instead, freeze, say a high pitched “ouch” to momentarily confuse your cat and let him know this has caused pain and the game is no longer fun. At the same time, gently push your hand toward your cat’s mouth. This will cause your cat to disengage. Moving your hand in the direction of the cat is totally confusing to him because prey would never act that way. This action is what will cause your cat to release his hold on you.

Taken from http://www.catbehaviorassociates.com

Did I say that "The Lost soul's method is the correct one to use"? Oh look, I didn't. Before you jump in on your high horse, I posted that because Saracirce has been on The Lost soul's back.

[Cardinal]

Saracirce, everybody has their own methods. You're just acting bitter now.

Because inflicting pain or fear on an animal is awesome, right?

Theres no reason to scare or hurt an animal, sorry. Removing reinforces is the way to go. Know what my older male does when the younger hellion bites and harasses him? Makes a noise that says "thats enough" and removed himself completely from the younger one for a time then goes back to play on his terms. Its the exact same method I use on my cats.

Taken from a ca behaviorist who has written many many awesome books:

If your cat has his teeth on your hand, don’t pull away because that will cause him to instinctively bite down more. Prey tries to pull away and you don’t want to imitate prey when your hand is in your cat’s mouth. Instead, freeze, say a high pitched “ouch” to momentarily confuse your cat and let him know this has caused pain and the game is no longer fun. At the same time, gently push your hand toward your cat’s mouth. This will cause your cat to disengage. Moving your hand in the direction of the cat is totally confusing to him because prey would never act that way. This action is what will cause your cat to release his hold on you.

Taken from http://www.catbehaviorassociates.com

Did I say that "The Lost soul's method is the correct one to use"? Oh look, I didn't. Before you jump in on your high horse, I posted that because Saracirce has been on The Lost soul's back.

Correcting bad information isn't 'being on someones back'. Its an open site, anyone can come along and read any ole thing and take it as the word of god then use it on their own animals. Its better to correct, or provide alternative information, so the methods used aren't cruel and actually well thought out. Thats why I posted the behavioral sight to back up the information provided.

[The Lost soul]

Making a cat friendlier. Well, if you can show how you are affectionate to other cats and they like you, it might show the stand-off one that you aren't a threat.
You need to let them know you are in charge, but you are also not challenging them(this can result in lots of issues if it's a tom). Fixing has been glorified to make cats more docile, but in some cats, it makes them worse, insecure and possessive. This is mostly common in males, so if it's a guy, they probably feel like their manhood is threatened because now that they lack their...manhood... they feel like they need to be to an excess. This is beyond rare, and I only know of 1 cat with this issue, personally(more not personally, but I cannot use them as evidence).
How does this cat act? Do they return a friendly, slow blink? Do they run from you, or start howling in aggression? Do they seem agitated? Or are they more 'I'm boss here so get in line!'?
Details are important with any cat, especially one with behaviors that get in the way of a good owner-cat relationship.

Cardinal. Goodness, hello. I can see your point, but with some cats, it doesn't work. It might work a few times at first, but if a cat is hell-bent on playing with your hands and playing with you personally, it can get to a point that you come out with bites and scratches, getting worse as the cat gets older.

Bootsy was old, and could not leave the area. She was the queen of the house, and the snotty kitten wasn't going to get the better of her, so she put him in line. Loki learned quick as spit to leave her alone.... Aleaha? Thomas got to be the king when she came around. He smacks her a time and she'll leave him be. Ignoring her doesn't help him, trust me... he tried to avoid her all day the first few weeks, and she followed him personally around like a lost puppy, instigating and prying to get a bit of fun.

Punishment is not something I like, but without it, a cat can run freely. A tap on the nose or a yell will frighten or stun them, not hurt them much. As a child, a slap on the hand was punishment. I use the same method with animals and it works great. Now, it's all up to the person who asked the question which method she likes best.

Ally, it's okay. We all can see what's going on here. Let's keep it calm before a whole hoard follows suite, k'ay?

[♡ A l l y C a t ♡]

Cardinal, I'm not just talking about that. Saracirce has been arguing with The Lost soul.

[The Lost soul]

Ally... it's okay.

It's in the past and I don't care about personal grudges. They hinder one from finding better things in the future.

[koolkatkoolkat123]

All of these suggestions sound good, we've had my kitten since september and hes insane. He bites he scratches but he does it to play and if he gets too rough we don't let him continue. Then theres my older cat who always puts him in his place, poor thing has arthritis in his back legs and all the kitten does is bite them but once he turns around the kitten jumps back and runs away