by cuddlewuffle » Sat Jan 15, 2022 3:18 pm
i think just as a general rule of thumb it should be kept in mind that not every site wants to have the same kind of environment/atmosphere, there is a particular atmosphere that DNI lists being permitted allows and just because it's cool in other forums or sites doesn't really mean that CS needs to be alright with it.
being allowed to participate on this site is a privilege not a right. it doesn't make sense to get disrespectful over this. if DNI lists make you feel safer that's cool but that doesn't mean that CS has to disregard everything else just for that reason- some people feel safer with their age in their bios on social media but CS doesn't allow that either for obvious reasons.
i feel like everyone can agree that DNI lists can at times be rude/strangely exclusionary and specific/feel uncomfortably targeted. and you can't really create hyper-specific rules to moderate something as variable as a DNI list. i think u can picture what kind of DNI lists im talking about without me explicitly saying so. CS has two options, either attempting to micro-manage what ppl can put on there, which would be chaos, or just disallowing them as whole. the second option makes more sense on a practical level.
DNI lists seem to be super common among younger people and are, as far as i can tell, the residual spillover of other social media sites which are much more massive than CS, are not nearly as well regulated, and thus led to people being exposed to content/profiles that would absolutely not be allowed even for a second on CS. those DNI lists were more necessary, on those sites.
but on CS? probably not. these mods work, like, overtime. you will never see a nasty fight over forums get shut down so quickly. there's a reason you can feel safer on this site than others, and it's because these mods work hard!
if DNI lists were allowed there would still be a long list of things that would not be allowed on them, as per CS's other rules. so mods would be flooded with hundreds of things to micro-manage, case by case. it is not fair to insist that they do this work just because you enjoy the idea of a DNI list. their time is not free and it's worth something.
by the way, saying you've never seen or heard of something happening doesn't mean that it doesn't happen. it's also not cool to be combative or rude when ur trying to make ur case. i was once a minor on sites that i mentioned earlier- i get it. but being snarky or insisting to mods while mocking with "well it's your JOB" does nooot get you anywhere.. definitely not as far as respect goes. lol. i don't want to imagine what CS would be like if the type of bickering that other sites are very well known for was allowed in these forums, christ
Last edited by
cuddlewuffle on Sat Jan 15, 2022 3:22 pm, edited 2 times in total.