[That's Offensive]

I've never really cared much about how other people perceive me, I dont see gender or pronounce as a necessary part of who I am and if people want to call me by a different name or pronounce I dont mind. I never thought too hard about this and I've just been telling people that Im cis because I dont really care but like,, is that cis?? because Im fine with any pronounce, sometimes I like to present more masculine and sometimes I just wanna wear a dress, most of the time I just feel like gender is stupid and I wanna be a rock, does that still count as cis?? can I be a cis rock??? there is so much gender out there and Im not sure that I understand it, like Im fine being a girl, I'd be fine with being a boy, I' be fine with being a toaster, help?? is this on some branch of the non-binary tree or like??

and why do I always draw Opheliawhen Im thinking??

[Jay_]

Hello! Just know that you do not need a label to be valid, but what you are experiencing from what I can see might be a branch of non-binary. I have heard of people experiencing all genders at once if that is what you are referring? Anyways, I hope you figure it out :3 and just know, again, you are valid regardless, whether you find a label that fits or don't, or if you simply don't want to is completely okay. <3

[friday]

unless you feel like you're another gender, since you just don't mind what people perceive you as, that sounds more like gender non-comforming than nonbinary to me? but use whatever label works for you!

[꧁tennis❤midget꧂]

I mean perhaps you could be gender fluid or non-comforting,,, from my personal experience I do also agree that gender is confusing. It can be very hard to label yourself sometimes, so if you feel confused maybe you could just ask people to call you by your name/nickname for now.~

[Celozon]

Trying to figure out gender can definitely be difficult. Personally, I'd say just go with whatever feels right to you. The way I figured I wasn't cis was basically just realizing that saying 'I am female' didn't feel like /me/. And neither did 'I am male'. I'm still stuck between whether I feel more like I'm neutral gender or non-gendered, but luckily those both fall under agender so I can just go with that. If you really want to dive into figuring it out, I'd really just suggest doing some research on gender, look up the various identities and see if one sounds like you. There are multi-gender and gender-fluid, though of course wanting to do or wear masculine or feminine things doesn't mean thats your gender, its more about what you feel you are. Which sounds very vague sorry.

And like its already been said, don't feel like you have to figure out your gender. If you want to, then go for it. But if you're fine with whatever pronouns people use and don't care about having a name for it, thats valid too. Gender is weird, personally I say just do whatever feels right for you.

[Ravenshadow17]

You've put into words what I've been struggling with for years. Some days I feel like I really align with my assigned gender, other times I have dysphoria (though the presence or absence of dysphoria doesn't mean you are one gender or another or makes your experiences and feelings any less valid). Other times I simply feel like I'm another gender and I just vibe. Most days I just don't feel like I belong to one or that I'm somewhere in the middle. I never have the energy to explain this so I usually just tell people to call me by cis pronouns and if I'm feeling comfortable I'll add "but any work".

Gender is really a mess sometimes and I've accepted that I'll likely never really align with an exact term or terms. And that's ok, that's valid. I am who I am, regardless of terms or lack of. And on the bad days where I feel uncomfortable I just talk to someone I trust and it really helps. Tho I'm one of the lucky ones who has loved ones who are fully willing to listen to me and just want me to be happy.

All that aside I just want you to know that you are completely valid and that I get a bit of what you're going through. If you ever need to PM me to vent or anything else, feel free.