Ajtak wrote:Looking for some thorough, honest advice. Thanks
I'm in a long distance relationship, we're genuinely happy pretty much all of the time. When we argue it tends to be my fault since I get (extremely) paranoid in certain scenarios. I compare myself to girls in his school, in my head of course, and I just find them so genuinely beautiful. I can't help but be a little jealous, like he doesn't even concern himself with girls, I just get so afraid that he'll end up going for one of them since they're so gorgeous. I'm not even exaggerating, they're literal instagram models.
I don't wish any harm towards them though, I just have trouble with my self confidence. I just really need some advice or reassurance on how to calm myself and trust him more. He's lied to me in the past, but not about seeing other girls, just him doing things that I asked him not to. He doesn't lie to me anymore, but since he did previously its scarred me a little. We love each other dearly, and we've met up many times (I'm actually visiting again in 18 days, so excited! ^^) so I don't see us separating any time soon. I plan to go to college there too, and I really want to make it work. Any advice on how to trust him more would mean the world to me, I know he's a good guy, but my paranoia stops me from seeing that sometimes.
Be conscious of what you're doing, catch yourself when you mess up, and remind yourself that you trust him and/or what you're thinking is unfair.
This comes with hard work, time, patience, and diligence.
xan wrote:what should I say to my boyfriend to let him know that I really trust him. One of my good friends caught feelings for my boyfriend, who has a very flirtatious personality, but I really do trust him I just worry sometimes because Im a worrier and I'm always thinking of everything that could go wrong. Now he's upset because he thinks I don't trust him. What can I say to get him to see things my way and to know that I trust him
"I trust you." And if he trusts you back, he'll believe that. You do have to show it with actions, though, like not giving him the third degree every time he talks with another person or not hinting (even jokingly) that you think he'd cheat.
Basically, you two just need to have a conversation to clear the air, know where you stand, and set up some boundaries of how to get back in the same groove.