Munė wrote:So, I have this crush, let's call him "John". (Not his real name)
"John" seems to like another girl though.
And I don't know what to do.
I tell myself to get over it, but I can't.
What should I do?
If you're not ready to get over it, then enjoy your crush in secret until you are ready to move on. You can't force yourself to do something that you don't want to.
Tyersal wrote:-snip-
Bottom line-
I just feel really helpless and I'm scared of not having anyone there for me. I feel like I have nothing going for me and there's is no chance with all the other options that anyone would choose me.
Is there anything I can do to help that? It makes me feel horrible, having to see C and know that there's not a possible chance he likes me, even though we are sort of friends. I feel like I'm just kidding myself by believing I could have a chance.
The thing about someone having a crush on you is that it's not about how attractive you find yourself; it's about how attractive someone else finds you, physically+mentally+emotionally+psychologically+personality-wise+etc.
Other than that, stop beating yourself up about this! You still sound pretty young. Honestly, dating when you're young is really overrated. There's plenty of time out there to meet people and have relationships and experiment and etc. You don't have to do it
right now. And if
someone doesn't come along? You know what? It's really not the end of the world. There are TONS of things to do and try and life. There are tons of ways to be happy, whether you date or get married or not. There are languages to learn, jobs to try, volunteering to do, things to study and learn, places to travel to, people+animals to help, mountains to climb, skills to learn, etc., etc., etc. Don't fall into the trap of believing that the purpose of life is to get hitched. It's not. Life can be whatever you make it. If you're feeling down, then try something new. Take a dance class. Learn a new language. Try doing pottery. Take a road trip. Read that book you've always been curious about. Volunteer at that animal shelter. Get out there and do something for yourself. Remember that you're worth living for all by yourself.
Sinnacle wrote:heres to having two girls confess to you on the same day.
Oh boy, where do I start?
So, In gym the other day, my friend (lets call her L) said she would date me if she weren't dating her boyfriend. I was happy because she's great and I might like her? Then my crush, lets call her J, she asks me out at the end of the day so of course, I said yes.
But how am I supposed to feel?
J is similar to me in many ways, such as delinquency and our child-like behavior. But then L is a thoughtful, kind, and amazing person who I share little common things with. L compliments me a lot and so does another girl friend of mine. She's just- shes so kind. But J and I love a lot of things and have personalities that mix well with one another. These girls are going to be the death of me.
Ugh, being a lesbian(pansexual) is confusing.
You are L's second choice. Why make her your first?
prejudiceu wrote:-snip-
basically I'm getting feelings back for him again. I've always had feelings for him but i don't know because
- he dumped my friend on her birthday eve
- I've been supporting her and i'd seem fake and like a hypocrite
- all of his guy friends say he likes me
Psst, you're not allowed to share your age, such as sharing your grade/year in school!
Tbh, I don't really understand why you felt you had to hide from either of them that you were still friends with both of them. You were friends before they broke up. It's not like you rant to the other person after the break up to go after them. It's not fair for either of them to ask you to choose sides in this situation. It's fine to let each of them rant to you; it's fine to try and cheer both of them up; it's fine to acknowledge how one of them screwed up to the other.
I think you should stop running around and just admit that you're still talking with the other person, you want to be friends with them both, you understand and support that they don't want to hang out with each other, and then go from there. ^^
Chim Chim<3 wrote:I know this isn't related to the topic, but I need help. I recently got in a fight with one of my bestest friends and i don't know what to do.
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Try the comfort corner in this section or the advice from adults in 18+ next time. And psst! You're not allowed to share your age on CS, such as what grade you are in.
Maybe you can't talk to your mom, but you should be able to talk with your friends. Maybe it's time to become just a little more mature, apologize for any hurtful things you've said, and work on your relationship with your friend(s).
Otherwise, you're starting a new school. There should be plenty of new people to make. Sometimes friends just drift apart, but there are always other opportunities out there.