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[WastedSpace]

Another small update:
So I have a friend (who I'm pretty sure I've mentioned on here before, I'll call him D) and we've been great friends for over a year now. We share every class, and sit together with our group of friends at lunch. I like to hang out with him because he's a great friend who makes me laugh. The problem? Lately, when I've been sitting next to him during lunch, J just comes over and sits in between us. There will be very little to no space, and she just sits between us without even asking. Yet when I'll be hanging out with him and a couple other people, she just goes with another group of friends. How do I ask her to stop without seeming rude? It's similar to what I asked before, but my mom just said she's jealous (Again, D and I are only friends) and I don't want to upset her, but this is bothering me.

Just calmly politely call her out. "Excuse me, I was sitting there; could you please move?" Be prepared for her to be snippy and sarcastic about it if she gets defensive, but you stay calm. It's not worth a fight.

Although, since you posted this in the crushes thread and because otherwise I'm not sure why J's behavior is upsetting you so much, I would also think about your own feelings and if you maybe have something you want to admit to yourself?

Like, I 100% get how that's rude, but if you two really are just friends, why not just scoot over to give yourself some space while continuing to talk with D? If he's not interested, she'll eventually move on and leave you both alone. Plus, that'll show J that you're not a threat and maybe she'll feel a little less jealous/possessive.

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if it means anything, i got a tarot reading abt him (excerpt below)
"The way I would interpret this is that "DV does have some emotions for you. But at the moment, he is trying to think of the outcomes in this relationship. He is trying to ignore how he feels for a bit, and really see if you and him are compatible." You did get a lot of good cards, so I assume that he does like you, and it may turn out good."
i find this accurate, please help me though its just so confusing

The best way to know how someone feels is to ask them. If you're not happy with your gut and how you think he feels towards you, then tell him how you feel and ask how he feels. There's no reason he has to be the one to make the first move. But also remember you're allowed to be upset over being ditched all the time and turn your sights towards people who treat you nicer.

[Dawnstorm111]

Another small update:
So I have a friend (who I'm pretty sure I've mentioned on here before, I'll call him D) and we've been great friends for over a year now. We share every class, and sit together with our group of friends at lunch. I like to hang out with him because he's a great friend who makes me laugh. The problem? Lately, when I've been sitting next to him during lunch, J just comes over and sits in between us. There will be very little to no space, and she just sits between us without even asking. Yet when I'll be hanging out with him and a couple other people, she just goes with another group of friends. How do I ask her to stop without seeming rude? It's similar to what I asked before, but my mom just said she's jealous (Again, D and I are only friends) and I don't want to upset her, but this is bothering me.

Okay if J is bothering you, tell her to stop, but say that she doesn't always have to be next to you and that you sometimes want your space. If she cares for you, she should at least try to not always do that.

[Dawnstorm111]

Another small update:
So I have a friend (who I'm pretty sure I've mentioned on here before, I'll call him D) and we've been great friends for over a year now. We share every class, and sit together with our group of friends at lunch. I like to hang out with him because he's a great friend who makes me laugh. The problem? Lately, when I've been sitting next to him during lunch, J just comes over and sits in between us. There will be very little to no space, and she just sits between us without even asking. Yet when I'll be hanging out with him and a couple other people, she just goes with another group of friends. How do I ask her to stop without seeming rude? It's similar to what I asked before, but my mom just said she's jealous (Again, D and I are only friends) and I don't want to upset her, but this is bothering me.

Just calmly politely call her out. "Excuse me, I was sitting there; could you please move?" Be prepared for her to be snippy and sarcastic about it if she gets defensive, but you stay calm. It's not worth a fight.

Although, since you posted this in the crushes thread and because otherwise I'm not sure why J's behavior is upsetting you so much, I would also think about your own feelings and if you maybe have something you want to admit to yourself?

Like, I 100% get how that's rude, but if you two really are just friends, why not just scoot over to give yourself some space while continuing to talk with D? If he's not interested, she'll eventually move on and leave you both alone. Plus, that'll show J that you're not a threat and maybe she'll feel a little less jealous/possessive.

Wastedspace, J's not jealous of the author. J is jealous of D because J likes the author
I think

[Dawnstorm111]

~ crush ~

lets just call him dv

so i started out school with a mutual elective w/ him, i got to talk to him atleast once every other day
he made a habit of visiting my 1st hour around 2nd quarter... usually to talk to me + other kids in the class
end of semester, visiting me everyday & mostly talking to me, I make it quite obvious that i like him
semester 2, NO classes together, he knows i like him.
have friend talk to him, dv says 'idk' when asked if he likes me
mid Q3, drift,,, he visits me maybe every-other day and doesn't talk to me 4 v long
i ask him to hangout over the weekend, he says he'd ask but cancels later in the day
present; he likes to talk to me when he sees me but still doesn't visit as ovften

idk ...

if it means anything, i got a tarot reading abt him (excerpt below)
"The way I would interpret this is that "DV does have some emotions for you. But at the moment, he is trying to think of the outcomes in this relationship. He is trying to ignore how he feels for a bit, and really see if you and him are compatible." You did get a lot of good cards, so I assume that he does like you, and it may turn out good."
i find this accurate, please help me though its just so confusing

He might have feelings for you, and you know what? People are like that sometimes. Sometimes they're too embarrased to admit to a crush. And if he doesn't, then it's really not the end of the world. Get to know him longer and once you're in his circle of trust, then you should probably ask again.
Hope this helps

[cassiopeiaa]

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if it means anything, i got a tarot reading abt him (excerpt below)
"The way I would interpret this is that "DV does have some emotions for you. But at the moment, he is trying to think of the outcomes in this relationship. He is trying to ignore how he feels for a bit, and really see if you and him are compatible." You did get a lot of good cards, so I assume that he does like you, and it may turn out good."
i find this accurate, please help me though its just so confusing

The best way to know how someone feels is to ask them. If you're not happy with your gut and how you think he feels towards you, then tell him how you feel and ask how he feels. There's no reason he has to be the one to make the first move. But also remember you're allowed to be upset over being ditched all the time and turn your sights towards people who treat you nicer.

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frustrating bc i get ditched by everyone
i think it's too late or he just dosent like me
i can't tell him how i feel, he knows i like him anyways
idk having gad in this situatation :(
thanks tho

[cassiopeiaa]

He might have feelings for you, and you know what? People are like that sometimes. Sometimes they're too embarrased to admit to a crush. And if he doesn't, then it's really not the end of the world. Get to know him longer and once you're in his circle of trust, then you should probably ask again.
Hope this helps :D

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idk i think i just need to let go -- its probably useless
thanks tho

[middle child]

@WastedSpace, @Dawnstorm111, @The Üpside Down

thanks, you guys !!! this was what i needed to get my confidence up. hopefully everything'll be fine~

[Dawnstorm111]

@WastedSpace, @Dawnstorm111, @The Üpside Down

thanks, you guys !!! this was what i needed to get my confidence up. hopefully everything'll be fine~

You're welcome

[xan]

so me and my boyfriend are doing well but every time he's upset and I try and be there for him but he won't tell me whats wrong. I'll ask him if it's about me, it never is but it makes sense I worry right? I care about him so much and I like to know whats putting him down so I can try and make him feel a little better. I think its bad for him to close things off but I can never get him to budge. He trusts me mostly everything so I just think its odd. How should I handle this?

[Dawnstorm111]

so me and my boyfriend are doing well but every time he's upset and I try and be there for him but he won't tell me whats wrong. I'll ask him if it's about me, it never is but it makes sense I worry right? I care about him so much and I like to know whats putting him down so I can try and make him feel a little better. I think its bad for him to close things off but I can never get him to budge. He trusts me mostly everything so I just think its odd. How should I handle this?

If he wants you to know, then he would tell you. Don't push him in order to make him tell you what's wrong. Just tell him that he can trust you with anything hope this helps