winter & fireflii wrote:birbmememaster24 wrote:she’s also annoyed when i send her cute snake photos
how is it annoying they’re like blessings from god himself
she says she hates snakes and i don’t think it helps me and her dont get along great for other reasons, but i am determined to make her at least like them, or not even like them, just tolerate them
I probably wouldn't send pictures. Even if you think they're cute, I'm sure she doesn't. I personally REALLY don't like roaches, and I would really hate it if someone sent me pictures of them (they are in no way, shape, or form "cute" to me). It may help to actually sit down and have a nice discussion about why she doesn't like them. Try not to judge and say "but they're cute, look at their puppy faces", etc. because in the long run, that doesn't help. What can help is addressing what fears she has. Is she afraid the snake will escape? If so, you can talk about how your enclosure will have a locking lid. Is she afraid it will hurt you, her, or another pet? If so, you can explain how snakes are only defensive, not aggressive. They would not bite unless they recognize something as food (and you can explain how a human would be seen more as a predator, and their natural diet consists of small mammals and birds). If she doens't like seeing it, you could try to discuss a possible location to house your snake (ex. in your room, out of sight of her passing by). Ask if there's anything you can do to address her fears, something you can work out with her, etc. But if she says no, don't push it. If you get pushy, you get annoying, and when you get annoying, she's even less likely to accept a snake in the house.
-fireflii
thanks for the advice! i’ll update you on how it goes